Help for Grandparents Raising Grandkids

Grandparents raising grandkids have a difficult but rewarding job. These are 10 dos and don'ts to help grandparents raising grandchildren.

Don't Badmouth their Parents: Many circumstances can lead to grandparents raising grandkids including parental abuse or neglect. No matter what the situation, don't speak ill of their parents. Your grandchildren will be better off if they learn to take a compassionate view.

Don't Overdo It: You probably have less energy than you did when you were younger but that's not such a bad thing. Many studies suggest that helicopter parents who hover around doing everything for their children impair their ability to live independently. Provide the essential guidance but know that it's good for your grandchildren to help with household chores and learn from their own mistakes.

Don't Go It Alone: There are many sources of information and support for families like yours. Browse online resources to help grandparents at AARP or USA.gov. Find support groups in your community by checking with local libraries, schools or churches.

Don't Hold Back on Your Love: You may have been hoping to spoil your grandchildren and send them home at night. Even if they're living with you, you can still lavish them with love and affection.

Don't Miss Out on Financial Assistance for Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: You may be eligible for financial support. If you're on a low income, you can apply for the Earned Income Tax Credit. In any case, you may qualify for Child Tax Credits. Your state government or Medicaid may also be able to help with medical expenses.

Do Child-Proof Your Home: Evaluate whether your home is safe for small children. You may need to take extra safeguards with medications, electric outlets and stairs.

Do Set Up Consistent Routines: All children benefit from consistency. If your grandchildren have been through a volatile time they need predictability all the more so keep a regular schedule and enforce consistent rules as possible.

Do Plan for the Future: If your age and health are a concern, prioritize planning for the future. Make an estate plan and appoint an appropriate guardian.

Do Encourage Cultural Literacy: In this age of reality TV and video games, you can help your grandchildren appreciate fine arts and literature. Encourage them to read and learn.

Do Share Your Wisdom: Most importantly, share your wisdom and experience. Help them to grow up kind and patient.

Grandparents raising grandchildren need some special help, but there are great benefits for both generations in spending more time together.