Help! I'm Being Abused

This is a subject in desperate need of enlightment, because of numerous reasons. It's sad to see in the news these beautiful women who have spent a great amount of time loving someone only to have their life snuffed out in a bout of anger. Domestic Violence is an issue that our nation takes at least a month and a day out for a year to find ways to help the domestically violated. It's amazing how effective some of these companies can be in finding ways to help people and even more frightening how ineffective our judicial system and officers of peace can be in protecting those in need of protection.

Being pushed, yelled at, and locked in a room with out assistance or help is a terrifying experience. To have your freedom taken away based on the abusers need to prove their superiority over a situation, is troubling. Can you imagine being pushed to the limit of no return? The problem is that most domestic violence situations never end well, because eventually the abuser punches or kicks their significant other one too many times sending their lust-one into oblivion. I say lust-one because there is no reason a person should be able to beat someone and then speak on the love they have for them. One cancels the other out. Another terrible route in domestic violence is when the abused person has been hurt and punished so much until they snap and kill their abuser. It's sad to know it doesn't matter how many times the abused victim has requested help, the amount of time they receive will be just as harsh at times.

Whole heartedly I tell you that we must be realistic in this topic. Even if the abused individual leaves the abuser, there is a possibility that children can be involved. Many abusers after losing control on one level will fight there way to regaining that control, most times through children. There has been women who have screamed and cried in the dark recesses of their minds when the court isn't mindful to the abuse that had occurred. It's awful that time and time again that if the victim gains a protective order that the child is left in the wind at times.

The protective order when not protecting the children in a lot of cases is like giving a dog a huge piece of land with the option to run in any direction they choose. If children are not considered within these protective orders, then the abuser attacks through visitation rights and custody battles, which places a rope around the victims neck much like the animal on the land with the abuser the only one to direct when and how the victim will be released or allowed to go. Laws are definitely in need of being changed in regards to domestic violence.

There is a belief among the judicial system that every parents deserves to take part in their child or children lives. I tell you that, that is not always true. At the time the child becomes a witness to the violence within the home to their parent whether directly or indirectly there is a need to give pause to allowing the child to go with the abuser unsupervised. Some state laws say if abuse occurs around the child then that is means for automatic termination of parental rights.

Granted there are some people who take advantage of the laws meant to protect domestic violence victim by giving false accounts about the alleged abuser. These individuals make it hard for those that are terrified of having their lives and/or their children lives snuffed out. In the situation spoken of previously in children needing to be added to the order, I believe that there is sufficient cause for a child who was not originally added to a protective order to be added and this is when the abuser violates the original order and begins stalking the victim and their children.

Those who have lost their temper whether once or more than once but did not violate the order should be taken through extensive counseling for anger and abuse for a minimum of two years at a time convenient of the parent. Having a certain amount of hours needed per year would show and effort of them wanting to do what's right to be a part of their lives, however like before this is not always realistic.

No domestic violence should be made to fear everyday life, and no victim should be put into a position where they are being controlled by their children. A mandatory assigning of children's name should be put within every protective order, and then at the term of expiration it can be dealt with then if there are no violations.

More effort by our judicial system should be put in place to protect the victims they serve. The judicial system should also stop allowing the victim and children to be taken to the slaughter like lambs.

No one should be subjected the abuse of a madwoman or man.

I want to be able to tell you some ways to help those you know who are screaming whether it be loudly or through the tears and blood spots in their eyes "Help! I'm being abused!.

First if you are in fear for your life and are tired of the abuse whether it be mental or physical, be sure that in your heart you want and need a new life without the games of running back to the abuse, keep in mind when you do this you make it hard for those in need of true help. Normally all counties have some sort of haven set up for victims needing protection for themselves and their children.

I would advise that you never tell your abuser what you are going to do. Also, don't worry about packing your clothes and the children clothes, go and get help; the police will take you back to get your items, and then you will be protected. You need to know your abusers schedule and be very careful that they aren't attempting to trick you in pretending that they are going to work or leaving the home. GET OUT!! Do it safely. Don't take your time about your need to leave but take your time in planning your escape with your children. I want those who are being abused to know this who believe they're alone and no one will never help them.

You do not deserve the beatings you received no matter how angry he or she was or how sorry.

Don't be amused by gifts it's an illusion he meant it he did it and he needs to get help but you aren't the one to say that or give it.

Stop being a punching bag whether it be emotionally or physically abuse is abuse.

You are not ugly and disgusting and someone else will want and love you but you must love yourself and children enough to leave.

The abuser is right no one will ever love you like them, because their love is too painful.

Keep in mind that if you been told that the abuser will kill you if you leave, know that he'll eventually kill you if you stay.

Know that you don't have to be told what to do like you're an animal and that it is wrong for your children to be taught to disrespect you.

Find help if he's gone and your scared he or she will beat you if you break a window to get out, keep in mind that God willing you will be long gone.

Follow the right steps, and you are not kidnapping your children as long as they are legally yours and you are protecting them.

Please, if not now then soon, get an order of protection, and do place your children on it, remember that this is if you are truly being hurt, because keep in mind if you aren't careful then the judicial will show very little mercy in believing you especially if your pro se (representing your self) and the abuser has an attorney in custody battles. Think smart and please be careful. If at any time you hear someone say whether in tears, cries or pleas "Help I'm being abused", don't be callous in your opinions on victims of domestic violence because you can very well be the one who helps save the lives of the victims.