Helpful Tips on Coping with an Unplanned Second Pregnancy

Helpful Tips on Coping with an Unplanned Second Pregnancy - I'll admit that I don't write this one first hand, but I know several friends who have gone through this. We all know how pregnancy happens, but at some time or another we all think that it won't happen because we're not prepared for it. It's usually about that time that the surprise of the positive pregnancy test comes along. What do you do? How do you prepare for another baby when your first one is still an infant? It's easy for all of us to say what a blessing it is and to pass judgement, but the reality is that you know have to think about how your life can accommodate two babies in a very short period of time. Not only is there the issue of figuring out accommodations and how your house can work for another unexpected baby, but there's also the financial and mental preparation that comes with it. Having one baby is a big enough adjustment, but having another one so close very unexpectedly can be a lot to handle.

*Take a deep breath and think. Families were different a few years back, they were larger and the kids were closer together. There wasn't as much planning put into the family development, and they managed just fine. Sacrifices were made and adjustments were indeed in order, but somehow the family ended up just fine in the end.

*Figure out your work arrangements. It may have been a no brainer for you to go back to work with one baby. You may however want to do the math with a second one on the way. Sometimes the cost of daycare for two babies can be such a staggering figure that it may not even be worth you going back. It may be more feasible for you to stay home, and if that's the case it's always good to save up while you are still working. It helps a lot later on!

*Talk to other families in a similar situation and ask them how they prepared. It helps not only to hear of some tips that they might have, but also to see if they can offer an ear to listen when you feel totally overwhelmed.

*Take a look at your house and figure out the best accommodations. You may think you don't have the space, but I have seen friends do some pretty amazing things in building out a room (out of seemingly nowhere!), adding doors in the right location, making a double room--it's amazing what we as parents will do to accommodate our little darlings.

*Make a list and shop for items to accommodate two children. The most obvious items are the double stroller, another crib, etc--if money is tight then consider going to a Mom to Mom sale or visiting some local resale shops. The good news is that some items you've used with your first baby will come in handy pretty quickly with that second one arriving soon.

*Take some time to let it sink in and remember what a blessing it is. Yes it sounds cliche for me to say that, but honestly in a day and age with so many couples struggling with fertility this is a great thing. It may be hard to realize that now, but down the road having two children so close together will be a great thing.

Sure another baby before you are ready for it can be overwhelming! Your body just recovered from pregnancy and now there's another baby on the way! With some time to reflect and planning, you can figure out how to accommodate and will realize what a blessing this is.