Helping Domestic Violence Victims in the US: Don't Let the Sun Go Down on Your Memories

I see your pain,
I hear your pain,
I know your pain.
I cannot sleep.
I am trying to help,
Resolve your pain.
So you can finally sleep
Without fear
That you will be killed
And the next dead DV victim
In the evening news.
Your life and death
To be forgotten faster
Than yesterday's lunch.

To all the domestic violence victims and child abuse victims, murdered or living in fear, some of us care and we are hoping to see laws and legislation, especially the ridiculous automatic joint custody, required visitations with abusers, or the ignorant refusal to consider domestic violence, prior child abuse charges, non-life threatening injuries, drug dealing, and drug using as considerations for revoking custody by judges across the US to CHANGE to protect domestic violence victims and their children.

Does someone who commits domestic violence and child abuse "love" their victims?
He who says: 'I love God, but hate my brother,' is a liar; for if one does not low one's brother whom one sees, how can one love God Whom one does not see?" 1 John 4:20

Abuse Is Not Love
~Society would see more clearly if they quit accepting and/or giving abusers the excuse "yes, you love her but..." Abuse is not love. Period. Losing self control is not love. Period. How can one abuse, terrorize, torture, or threaten the one they love? You cannot, if you loved them, you would not act that way. Love is an action-in the positive direction-these people, abusers and defenders of the "good intentions of abusers," are greatly misinformed on what love is and justice would be.

Abuse Is Not Loving Behavior - Abuse Is Selfish Behavior That Can Kill or Injure Other People
~Realize abusers do not love. Abusers tend to believe that they are usually "loving people who act out in anger or when provoked." Uneducated loved ones, some therapists, some clergy, and society tend to support this belief; hence, abusers aren't even motivated to change. Why not? They believe if the wife just submitted or did not express her opinions or displeasure or if the children just obeyed, they would not be abusers. Abusers blame the environment for their triggers, they do not accept full responsibility for the fact that they can and do choose their response as they snap from irritation to punching or biting. Then abusers move from victim to victim leaving a wake of victimized women and children behind. Abusers are people who have the control of a two year old when angry in a man's body-a very dangerous and deadly combination.

What is the proper response to victims of domestic violence?
"When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few." Jesus in Matthew 9:36-37

~Have compassion and DO SOMETHING ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:
Change laws, create shelters, and fund programs to help victims. Shelters and domestic violence support groups don't stop abuse but they do create a space to prevent some domestic violence deaths. According to statistics, domestic violence abusers usually commit child abuse and are far more likely to commit child sexual abuse-if given the opportunity like alone time through court ordered visitations-so stop supporting legislation that gives domestic violence offenders opportunities to abuse and influence their young children. Create new laws and legislation in your areas before your daughter or grandchild has to be beaten, threatened, injured, or killed to get your attention. Prevention is the best medicine.

~If you don't think you or your family will ever be affected by domestic violence or abusers, you are wrong: If you pay taxes or drive in traffic, then you have influence on the situation and could be victimized yourself. Domestic violence offenders also tend to experience road rage; however, when they "act out" they are not just cursing at you and flicking the bird, they are tail-gaiting you, bumping you, trying to drive you off the road, kicking your car side in, beating you up or shooting you dead at the next traffic stop. [Sadly EACH and EVERY one of these examples are from real cases with real people involved]. Don't turn a blind eye.

~Start Now to Help Prevent DV - Request a National Serial Domestic Violence Offender Registry for the US Be Created:
Send a brief note to the White House to request one-this would prevent domestic violence offenders from jumping county to county and state to state to create new victims and families. This would save tax payers money, prevention is less expensive. Take me to the White House Contact Form, click here for the White House Contact Easy Submit Form.