Heterosexual Relationships vs. Homosexual Relationships
Many people choose to believe that all gay and lesbians are promiscuous, which I can tell you are not the case. I know many same-sex couples that are in a loving and committed relationship to each other. While there is a great number of gay and lesbians who are promiscuous, there are still just as many straight people who are just as promiscuous. This I found by observing family and friends and hearing there tales of their many trysts. So there isn't a difference really from one orientation to the next. Why this sort of behavior is always associated to the gay and lesbian lifestyle is beyond me. It's an occurrence in all lifestyles.
So many today criticize same-sex couples, saying that two women or two men loving each other is unnatural or perverted. Many argue that it's also unnatural because gay and lesbians can't "procreate." They have to look at other alternatives to become parents such as adoption, surrogates, or sperm donors. I ask how is this different from heterosexual couples with infertility problems turning to these same alternatives to be able to have children? A family is what you make it, what you do to create that family is the couples choice, gay, or straight. It doesn't matter if there are two dads, two moms, or a dad and a mom. Another thing I would like to address is the statement many have made about same-sex couples that do have children will make their children turn out gay. That is not even remotely true. All of my gay and lesbian friends are the product of straight parents.
Another topic up for debating is sex. Many look at homosexual love making as a perverted and pornographic act. Some tend to look down on gay sex or lovemaking because they say we have to use toys to make love, having oral sex is wrong, and well anal sex is just unnatural. Again this differs from straight love making how? I know many straight couples that incorporate toys into their love making as a way to spice it up and making it more exciting. Oral sex is another enjoyable pleasure of heterosexuals as well and most use it as a form of foreplay. Anal sex occurs in heterosexual relationships as well, huh what??? Yes people you read me correctly. All of these things aren't just linked to gay and lesbian couples. Yet with gay and lesbian couples its considered "dirty." Not all same-sex or even heterosexual couples are into the things I mentioned above. I believe it depends on the couple, how sexual they are, and their willingness to try new things. These kinds of sexual acts and lovemaking is not limited to just gays and lesbians.
In conclusion I really do not think there is a bit of difference between a loving same-sex couple and a heterosexual one. Straight couples, however, can be open more in public, showing their significant other love and affection, where as homosexual couples can't for fear of being ostracized. Also heterosexual couples have the right to marriage and the benefits that go along with the sanction of marriage. Gay and lesbians don't and that is how we are different!
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Post a CommentCan someone please explain exactly what are the benefits that go along with the "sanction of marriage that gays and lesbians so much desire" that cannot be legally put in place through a contract or a will? Those faithful to Christianity understand that Christ taught the scripture - the OLD testament. Christ is the NEW testament. The Old Testament clearly states that homosexuality is an abomination to God. This does not mean the sinner is a bad person, it is the ACT of a man laying with a man as a man would lay with a woman, or a woman living the lesbian lifestyle. "That is why God gave them up to disgraceful sexual appetites, for both their females changed the natural use of themselves into one contrary to nature." Christianity doesn't teach hate as some propose. It is a religion of God's Truth, and unfortunately this doesn't fit into the lifestyle people choose to live by so they attack it or leave their faith - I pray for the salvation of all us sinners. God is the only judge.
Susan Corbet. I am responding to your comment about homosexuals removing their self from the gene pool. That is not true they choose to have children, but by other means. These children do not have a choice. They will never have a opportunity to know their gene pool. Have you every listened to the the song 2510? Think about this, if you do not know who is really blood related to you, maybe you will grow up and marry a relative.
Homosexuality is part of nature that many heterosexuals do not understand because they are so damn ignorant about nature that they do not see themselves as part of nature. Many heterosexuals need to understand that the whole world does not evolve around "only" them, and it does not help them by being so hateful!
Homosexuality is a abnormal sexual behavior...... it's pure science folks
In response to a couple of the comments above, first...to "in response" how do you know that more homosexual couples are unfaithful to their relaionships? I know more straight men that are unfaithful to their wives! Second, to Jessie, how do you know that God did not make people gay? Why would you think that people would CHOOSE a lifestyle that is so ridiculed by society? Why put yourself through that if you didn't have to? The both of you need to do some research on the subject and maybe seek some sort of therapy to help you with your homophobia! And by the way...I am a straight female who has never had a homosexual relationship!
It does make a huge difference if a child has a father and mother figure! Research shows us that children who didn't have a father or mother due to the parents getting divorced have a hard time keeping up with everyone else in development. Because of this, why do you think that it's any different if there's two of one sex? Also, I'll just point out that even if you know a few couples that are faithful, the vast majority of gay/lesbian couples are not. Most relationships last only two to three years. And the risk of you getting a sexually transmitted disease increases with each relationship.
yeah agreed, well how can you disagree?
you've got the goods from both sides!
being gay is not normal, its not what God intended.. God did not make any one Gay..
I don't think it's reasonable to equate childless couples with gay people. Being 'unable' to concieve a child is very different from making a *choice* to remove yourself from the gene pool. But do agree that the relationship part is substantially the same regardless of everyone's gender. Good article.