Holistic Vision

Take a pencil in your hand. Don't neglect this exercise and don't try to do it only in your mind. It is very important to physically do this exercise to better understand the subject we are going to talk about. Now turn the pencil with the tip towards yourself. That's how we see the world. We see only what is in front of us. We don't see the other side nor do we see the pencil as a whole. We can't even imagine that there is something invisible behind the visible phenomena.

I now turn the pencil so you can see the entire rod entirely. This is called holistic vision. You see the whole subject entirely, the two sides, the two opposites. You instantly understand that you, he can serve and how you can take in their hands to begin writing.

The same thing happens with the relationship with people. When you see the whole person, rather than one of its sides, then communicate with them accordingly. In other words, your relationships are harmonious. Let's see how this is happening, I mean, how do you fall into the trap of their own limited vision.

If you have a negative perception of the world around you in every person will see the potential danger, negative, the enemy. If the positive perception, then - a friend or a neutral party. Purely negative world as a purely positive, did not happen.

Now imagine that you have long communication with the person, you don't like. Suddenly, the man offers you assistance or some thing that you needed. You will see that you care, know whether that it is sincere? Of course not. You do not even notice because you see only one side of the person, your one-sided vision completely overshadow its merits and deeds. Besides, its positive steps you will be treated as a threat to themselves.

Now imagine that you know the person with a good side and suddenly it makes you some kind of meanness. You are in shock. "How he could do so!" - Again and again say you imagine ... and cease doing business with this man.

Large concentrating on the positive qualities, you can see the negative side of individuals. Until a person has ego, he will always have two sides. This is one of the lessons we go - learn to see the whole person and make it so, what it is. After all, you also want this, too - that you take such a, or what have you - but it does see and accept its negative side.

Advantages - It is the continuation of our weaknesses. Lotus grows out of dirt, light a candle flame rests on the wick black. Liar is capable of a great truth, the curmudgeon is capable of the great generosity coward is capable of great courage, scoundrel - to nobility.

What's inside of you should appear to other people, and most importantly, your loved ones, that they have opened their best qualities to you?

Once I read the following story about Mahatma Gandhi:

He sent one man to the market to buy something that gave him a certain amount of money. After some time this man came and said that money did not buy. Gandhi did not say anything and then gave him the money, asking to buy something that should be. He again returned empty-handed, saying that the lost wallet. Gandhi once again gave him the money and sent to the market. Once again, people returned without shopping, invented another excuse. Mahatma Gandhi's twenty-one times sent the man shopping, no word of blame in his dishonesty. At the twenty-first time, people did bring what it had expected.

Faced with daily life, we tend to see only one side of the phenomenon, not suspecting that there is another side. How strangely arranged our minds. When he is not well developed, he prefers to deal only with one side of events - as if he sits in the trap. Developing, it reveals their potential.

In the example you have done with pencil acts physically to see the whole pencil. In dealing with the phenomena of life, we can do the same with the help of mind. Turn phenomenon in mind, we see it from all sides. Main here - be prepared to see and take. Very often, people do not want or can not do so either because of the narrowness of thinking, or because new knowledge can make changes in their lives and are afraid to change everything.

One woman (her husband she was not) sit at the seminar its relationship with her son, who did not understand and did not take her views on life and passions. It guess that itself creates a situation in the outside did not see and does not accept any feelings for him. When she tried to look at the son, as they say (and not a coincidence!), "Other eyes, then the next day that's what she exclaimed:" I understand, I saw it, and a son, and her husband, and man, and lover. A son of the first cost without caustic comments when I told him that I go to the seminar. "

The relationship between human beings is much greater than we represent in the words "mother and son, father and daughter, superior and subordinate" and so on.

How to forge a holistic vision? First of all, must become familiar with their views on the world to see, it is positive or negative. Of course, a purely negative or positive view does not exist, somewhere, you see so, but somewhere else. Where do you see the positive, it is necessary to see the negative component of, well, in the negative - positive.

For example, you have to help a friend, and he sat down to your neck. You have a broken machine, but it will help you learn about an interesting man - he drop you home. And so on. There is a need to learn to see every bad event is good that it carries you, and vice versa. This is the beginning, nuts and bolts, so to speak.