Homosexuality and the Ex-Gay Movement

Anyone who says that people choose their sexual orientation is out of his rockers. Whether science can prove it or not, it is obvious from speaking and listening to people who are homosexuals that it is not a cup from which they willingly chose to drink.

Who would choose to be the center of hatred and ridicule? I do not believe that anyone would choose such a fate. I believe if people could choose their race, they may all want to be the white race because that is the race of power, it is the race that is privileged and if you ask most children they will tell you they wish they were white especially if they live in the western world. If they lived in other countries they'd tell you that they wish they were lighter than darker skins. These hopes and dreams are not because the children inherently hate themselves, they just want to fit in and be loved. So I put it to you if homosexuals had their way they would wish to be straight.

There are occurrences that happen in nature that mankind does not have answers for as yet. In the process of a child being formulated in the womb a lot of things can go awry, parts can become mixed up.

We say nature is perfect but sometimes even nature gets itself tangled in a knot. We see the results in children being born with all kinds of deformities and disabilities. Sexual orientation could be seen as a disability from the standpoint of what society accepts as "normal".

A recent program on CBC featuring on ex-gays depicted the traumatic journey homosexuals face in coming to terms with their gender, which is different from their sex.

The pain of exclusion even by their own family members, the hatred by society and the condemnation by religious institutions push many homosexual to committing suicide or in mental institutions.

The ex-gay movement alleges that it cures homosexuality. That is a conundrum to me. I do not believe one can be cured of one's gender. If that were so interchangeable, the young man in Canada who because of a botched up circumcision was castrated and raised by his parents as a girl would have turned into a girl but the child became confused as (s)he grew up because she was attracted to other females. Her life was dreadful. This young man had appeared on the Oprah Show with his story because he wrote a book about it. Here was a man who could not be transformed even by socialization to become a woman. Though his parents might have meant well the result was a confused human being who eventually took his own life.

Homosexuals are homosexuals. The choice comes in whether they choose to express or suppress it. A Catholic priest is a man but he choses to forsake the pleasures of his manhood for a celibate life dedicated to his Creator. It is a choice. I believe that homosexuals can also make that choice. They can choose to be celibate, choose to develop some kind of a relationship with a woman with whom to bear children and raise a family and suppress his longing for other men. It does not mean that the homosexual is no longer a homosexual.

This is a huge price for anyone to pay but for some a homosexual lifestyle is just not in the cards for them. I am sure there are hundreds of straight acting men out there who may be homosexuals but for whatever reason they have chosen a different path for themselves.

As one leader in the ex-gay movement said, his desire to serve Jesus is greater than his desire for a homosexual relationship. He admits that he still finds men attractive but will not betray his lesbian wife and vice versa. They are trying to live in a manner as they understand that the Bible prescribes.

Bottom line is choice. People have a right to happiness and to live a life free from harassment and discrimination because of their sexual orientation. If they are law-abiding, contributing members of society, why should whom they choose to spend their lives with be a burden for anyone? Could it be that those who protest the strongest are merely jealous that they do not have the guts to face themselves?