Hot Sex and the Evangelical Church

Several Ministers and Church Groups Are Now Praising the Virtues of Having Good Sex

Kim Linton
Hot sex in the Christian community is a topic that is seldom discussed. For years my husband and I have been teaching Christian couples how important it is to have a satisfying sex life. Apparently, the message has finally caught on.

Several ministers and church groups are now saying that having a hot sex life is a good thing. One minister, Joe Beam, founder of Family Dynamics Institute, is on the cutting edge of this new movement. He believes that satisfying sex is necessary for a strong marriage, and beyond certain biblical mandates, Christian couples should feel free to decide what is best for them sexually.

Beam was recently interviewed on a segment of MSNBC. What he had to say shocked even the interviewer.

Humorous statements like, "Why can women be multi-orgasmic and men not? Well, I've decided God just likes them better!" would make most church folks blush. Beam believes that by breaking down the sexual walls that many Christians have erected relationships will be strengthened.

In his seminar, Beam discusses everything from oral sex to vibrators. He invites participants to ask questions which he answers in graphic detail. Beam does have scriptural guidelines regarding sex that he says are a must for Christian couples. For example, he says there should be no pornography (drawings from the Kama Sutra are okay), no adultery, group sex, or anything that harms the body, just to name a few.

Apparently, folks who attend his workshops often come away from the event feeling free to discuss sexuality for the first time in their lives. A few women admitted that they sometimes feel guilty while making love to their husbands, but after the workshop, they claimed to have a healthier understanding of what the Bible actually says about sex.

Beam has been attacked by many conservative Christians for his outspoken style and message. Some of what he preaches tends to contradict the teachings of other groups, such as Roman Catholicism. He usually responds by saying that if the Bible does not forbid it, then you can do it.

While there are a few things that Beam teaches that I disagree with, I am happy to see that folks are at least taking the time to discover what God has to say about sex.

There have been many man made cultural and societal rules imposed upon the church over the years that have nothing to do with what God teaches regarding a particular topic. In my opinion, sex in the life of Christian couples is one of the most misunderstood issues in the Evangelical church.

Obviously, when dealing with controversial issues such as sex, it's important to read the Bible for yourself. Find out what God has to say about it and then follow your convictions. Each person should be fully persuaded in their own minds regarding disputable matters. I believe that often in the church we make things way more complicated than they need to be.

For additional reading, tips, and scriptural guidelines to help you decide what is right for you, take a look at Should Christian Couples Use Role-Playing During Sex?.

Remember, having a satisfying sex life, whether you are a Christian or not, will help to strengthen not only your marriage, but also every aspect of your life.

Published by Kim Linton

Kim Linton began her writing career in 2001 as a contributor for Ministrymaker Magazine. Kim's work has since been published on a variety of websites including Woman's Day and Intel, and featured on several...   View profile

  • Many Christian women admit that they often feel guilty while making love to their husbands.
  • Sex in the life of Christian couples is one of the most misunderstood issues in the church today.
  • Minister Joe Beam believes that hot sex plays a strong role in helping to build a good marriage.
Joe Beam, founder of Family Dynamics Institute, has been attacked by many conservative Christians for his outspoken style and message. Some of what he preaches tends to contradict the teaching of other groups such as Roman Catholicism.

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  • David Whitsell 10/6/2009

    So is this guy Beam for or against anal sex?

  • Jon Creffield 12/4/2008

    A very interesting read. The topic of sexual taboos and Christianity is one deserving of much attention. I believe cultural values of a bygone era have seeped into the Christian understanding of sexuality.

  • Darin Tripoli 11/16/2008

    amen? d:)

  • Stephanie Armstrong 11/4/2008

    Great article Kim! I've always wondered why it was considered to be so dirty when it can be a really beautiful thing. Kudos to you for teaching this!

  • Heather Carreiro 10/30/2008

    I'm glad people in the church are finally talking about sex. Compelling title and great piece.

  • Robert Fanney 10/1/2008

    Using sex to sell Christianity? Well it's better than hellfire...

  • Barbara Quinn 8/30/2008

    Kim, this is a fabulous piece. Too often, one gets the perception that sex is nearly something dirty, not to mention an outright taboo topic if one is to consider themselves a Christian. Maybe we wouldn't have 'secret' scandals running rampade if we gave sex the attention and respect it was intended to receive.....a beautiful gift, I say. Bravo!

  • Greg Wendland 8/5/2008

    That's just fantastic. I love this article!

    I'm thankful that someone in ministry has the courage to go against tradition and bring this subject in the open. After all, here is a thought.. If the male and female organs were meant purely for procreation as only a necessary action, then why are the erogenous (pleasure) zones located within those same organs?

  • Meki g 6/30/2008

    Ok, Kim thanks for keeping it real. So many christians are not willing to talk about the subject that is most important in relationships they are keeping it taboo when it is such a vital part of husband an wife coming together as one. All I can say is Amen, Amen and Amen!!!

  • Marilyn K. Smith 5/30/2008

    Sex is God's gift to the married man and woman. We should be the only ones enjoying it. It was created for us! I hate what man has done to it. Good article!

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