How to Adjust to Living Alone After College

Lisa Riggs
You finally did it. After surviving and thriving for four years at college, you are finally at a point where you can afford to live alone. Congratulate yourself on a job well done and enjoy this new found freedom and independence. The transition from a busy and bustling dormitory setting or an apartment shared with roommates to the stillness of a solitary living space can have it's downsides. The peace and quiet can cause feelings of isolation and loneliness. The added responsibilities of cleaning and bill paying can cause anxiety. Fortunately, there are several tips and tricks you can use to turn your new, quieter living space into one you look forward to returning to at the end of the day, instead of one that you dread.

Create and Maintain a Routine. From setting up the coffeemaker at night to the day you pay the rent and other pertinent bills each month, a set routine is crucial to thriving in your new situation. Not only will a strict routine ease the loneliness and make you feel more at home in your new house or apartment, you will also be prompted to remember all those little tasks that you formally shared with your college roommate.

Fill Your Home with Cheerful Decor. Though your budget may be tight and your enthusiasm low, filling your new solitary digs with upbeat and cheerful decor is a must. After a long workday, your spirit will not be lifted by drab and colorless surroundings. Splashy throw pillows, vibrant window treatments and holiday themed nick knacks will do a much better job at welcoming you home after a long and tedious day making a living. Framed photos and memorabilia from your college days will add a wonderful touch and also remind you of the joy and adventure that you enjoyed in the last chapter of your life.

Invest in a White Noise Machine. If your former living space was filled with the comforting sounds of others coming and going, the sudden quiet may leave you feeling isolated and vulnerable. A machine that provides a constant background noise may be very comforting at this time. If nature sounds have a soothing effect on your body and soul, be sure to choose one that provides the sound of falling rain or ocean waves crashing at the shore. This little gem can not only aid you in falling asleep at night, it may also provide a cozy companion during the day.

Make Socializing a Priority. From a raucous housewarming party to an impromptu dinner and drinks date with your old college friends, socialization is very important during this new phase of life. It is easy to get immersed into a new career and focus all energies into that, but leaving room for fun is just as important. Introduce the new friends you met at work to the buddies you went through the college years with. This pairing of old friends and new will remind you of how rich and full your life really is. Include your closest family members in these gatherings, as they will surely be a wonderful source of support as you make the transition from college student to a thriving member of the workforce.

Published by Lisa Riggs

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  • Bridgitte Williams5/16/2011

    Ecellent tips, my friend!! :-)

  • Amy Brantley5/9/2011

    Wonderful tips!

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