How to Get Along with a "Hard to Deal" Co-worker

In every workplace, you have to deal with different personalities of people who are with you in the job. Some are nice but there are hard to deal individuals who will always drive you crazy. I happened to be with some individuals who are tagged as "hard to deal" in my work place. They truly ruined my day sometimes. I have been struggling for a time to deal with these people but I have no choice except to find ways on ow to get along with them. it;s not an easy thing but I made it.

Here are some ways I found helpful to deal.

Appreciate their Good side

I have a co-worker who easily gets irritated. He is very sensitive and often misunderstood us when we talked about something in the group though it doesn't concern about him, he is always paranoid about things. It affects my mood when he acts strangely with minor things. What I did was to focus on his good side. I noticed that even if he has that irritant attitude, he has talents that are commendable but because people are irritated with him they don't appreciate his good side. I start to appreciate his good artistic ability. He is very neat in his work like reports, files, and he is very organized in everything he does, I always appreciate his work every time he make something commendable. We became friends and he likes me more than others in the group just because he was appreciated.
There are people who acted differently because they want to be recognized. They want somebody to appreciate them. Appreciation can really make a difference to people.

Learn to keep cool don't argue

This is the hard part, not to argue when you have the right to do so. Trying to be nice when you don't feel it is hard to do but it helps most of the time. When this co-worker of mine keeps on murmuring and complaining about something he doesn't like or something that upsets him, I just hold my temper. I keep myself from arguing him or make any comment about what he said. I just keep quiet and let him finish everything he wanted to say. When he is done and felt relaxed, I start to explain to him about my point of view regarding the things he is concerned of. He starts to realize things in a positive way and begin to open his mind to understand situations. There are people who Need somebody to listen to them when they most need it and when we argue when they share their opinions, it would make the matter worst. It helps to be cool and not to argue sometimes.

Keep in touch with them often

Keeping in touch with these people is really something to them. It made them feel important. They will be inspired that you are trying to reach out for them, which means, you have concern and you are a good friend who understand them. They would consider it a blessing to have you as a friend because you are kind while others turned their backs at them. As you build a close relationship with these "hard to deal" individuals you will be able to discover their good attributes. Keeping in touch would help improve their attitude towards others because they feel that no matter what, there is somebody who cares for them.

Learn to apologize

Well, it is a little bit awkward to apologize when you feel that his mistake is more than you do. Most of us are controlled by our pride. There was one time when this co-worker of mine was so upset with me because I was not able to join the group activity right away . This happened because the announcement did not reach to me on time and I was late then to join the group. He was so upset accusing me of being uncooperative and so on. He felt it right to do that because he was the leader of the group. I can't stop him with my reasons because he burst like a machine gun. I suppose to tell him that if he is really a responsible leader, he should see to it that instructions would reach to everybody before the time to start the activity. I was so embarrassed and angry but I hold my temper. Though I felt he was unfair, I swallow my pride and start to apologize. I don't feel like doing it but I have to in order to keep him calm. It did help because he stopped raising his voice and he asked an apology too for not relaying the information properly. Learning to apologize could help to mend a broken relationship.

Offer a helping hand when they need it

People who are hard to deal will become nice if you will offer help in time they need it. They would consider you as the best of friends because nobody usually comes to help these kind of people due to their attitude. As human tendency, other people would shrugged their shoulders to the "hard to deal" individuals. Since you are there in time of their need, they will consider you as the best they ever have.. Then you will notice that they will respect you more than the others and they will be careful not to offend you. Helping people in spite of who they are is a great accomplishment. You'll never know, that what you do gives a great impact in their lives and you are the instrument to make them better persons.