How to Apologize to Your Man

Men aren't the only ones who mess up. You ladies do it from time to time as well. Now I'll admit that most of the times, it's the guy who does the apologizing. It's not all that easy, it's not fun at all, and hopefully, it's not frequent but sometimes, you owe your man an apology. Here are some tips when it comes time to apologize to your man.

Reflective Listening

Don't just nod your head when he's ranting. That will get you nowhere. Sure you can hear him. Hell, even the NEIGHBORS can HEAR him. Reflective listening will let him know that not only can you hear him but that you are listening to him too. When he's mad that you went and spent $140 on getting your hair cut, styled and colored, when the day before you told him not to spend $110 on a ticket to see a UFC fight, just kind of repeat what he said. Try something like, "OK, you're upset because I told you that $110 was too expensive for the fight ticket but I went and spent $140 on my hair." Indirectly telling him that you know where he's coming from will go a long way.

Don't Defend Yourself By Responding With Your Own Complaints

We've all done this and it never ends well. He's complaining about something and you reply with, "Well last week, I sat in the car for a half hour waiting for you to stop running your mouth at the auto parts store." Really, that has nothing to do with anything. Doing this will just add fuel to the fire and make things worse.

Let Him Know That You Have A Plan To Make Things Better

As men, we communicate to solve problems. Women communicate to work on the relationship. It's vital that you understand these differences. Your fight may end with a hug but your man wants to know that you have a plan. Letting him know that you understand why he's upset and that you intend to work on the issues at hand is a good way to end a argument.

Bury The Hatchet

If the argument is over, the issue is resolved in most cases. Don't keep bringing it up. You'll be tempted but refrain. You'll think of a hundred and one arguments to counter his argument. If you do that, you'll just re-open the wound. Once he accepts your apology, let it be. There is a saying, "You can be right, or you can be happy." Sometimes you just have accept defeat.