How to Have an Appropriate and Effective Handshake

The handshake is the most common form of greeting in the world. Whether in a situation where you are meeting someone for the first time or just greeting an old friend, a handshake is something that becomes important in almost any social situation. With the importance of a handshake, also comes a wonder on what the right way to do it is. Many people wonder what the "correct" way shake a person's hand is. Though there may not be a definitive answer to this question, there are several things that can be taken into account to ensure that your handshake is effective and appropriate.

If you are meeting a person for the first time, the handshake when you meet them is what gives them the first idea on what you are all about. If someone does not shake another person's hand, that person may take offense. In most places in the world, the handshake is extremely important for these reasons. A seemingly small handshake can make a big difference in the way that someone views you.

A question that everyone has about a proper handshake is the firmness or the force that you actually squeeze the other person's hand. We have all had a handshake that left us in a little bit of pain; and most would think that it was not a pleasant experience. Make sure that your handshake is firm, but not overbearing. The last thing you want to do is leave your new friend in pain and give them a bad first impression. If you are shaking a woman or an elderly person's hand, make sure to be especially careful.

Another thing that people worry about in relation to a handshake is the length or duration of it. Going right along with the painful handshake is the one that lasts way to long. This can be a very awkward situation. Make sure that your handshake is not too long. Make the judgment yourself but the ideal handshake is two or three 'shakes.' Anything longer than this can become annoying and make the situation strange.

The number one thing that people forget about when they think about a handshake is to look the person in the face. Focusing so much on the actual hand can cause a person to forget to make eye contact with the other person. Eye contact is very important, especially if you are meeting someone for the first time.

Another factor that goes into a good handshake is the angle at which you approach the recipient. Do not stick your arm out towards someone at an awkward or unnatural angle because they may not know what you are actually trying to accomplish by doing so. Along with the overly long handshake, starting off your attempt at one with an angle which the person may not know your intention can be awkward.

Keep in mind also that depending on where you are, a handshake may not be appropriate. If you travel the world, make sure to know the customs for greeting in the specific area that you are in. Be observant and note how others are greeting each other.

The bottom line that needs to be remembered with a handshake is that they are all about first impressions. Think the situation through and your handshake will be appropriate and effective.