How to Ask a Woman Out

One of the hardest things you will ever do in this world is just to be single. Singles get no tax breaks, no fun parties where everyone buys them presents, no showers (bridal, baby) of any kind. And dating is almost impossible these days. Maybe one in every twenty dates you go on will be good - the rest are just going to be torture experiences. Any maybe one in every forty is someone that you might actually want to date again. In many cases, all you think is that you need to get away - far away - as soon as possible.

And no matter how advanced we as a society become, there is still a great deal of pressure on men when it comes to dating. Women can get as many jobs as they please, make more money, become more successful than any man - but they still won't kill the bugs, will they? And when it comes right down to it, the men are still excepted to make all the moves. If a man doesn't call at the right time or within the right time limit, he's immediately written off. And they say that a woman decides within the first five minutes if she's going to go to bed with her date or not. Men are expected to pay for everything and to make all the romantic moves - and yet still do so without coming across as too straightforward or chauvinistic.

And if that wasn't bad enough, in almost every single situation it is the man who has to ask the woman to go out with him. All a woman has to do is show up somewhere, and she'll get hit on, she'll get asked out, someone will want her phone number. Men have to do all the talking, and not do too much talking. Men have to be assertive but no aggressive, appreciative but not say anything too off-course, complimentary but not too bold. Some women take offense just when you ask if you buy them a drink.

Asking a woman out is like going to the dentist. You dread it, you hate it, you just want to get it over and done with as quickly as possible. It's usually quite painful, too, and there's always this horrible fear in the pit of your belly like something dreadful might happen at any moment. Nine times out of ten, you bomb horribly. Your buddies make fun of you, and you get even more hesitant about asking the next woman out.

There are, however, certain tricks you can use and certain things you can learn to make this process easier - and to ensure a better chance of a positive reply. First, never let a woman know that you made a trip across the bar just for her. Don't walk right straight up to her if you can avoid it. Do this by using any means possible - accidentally bump into her, go up to the bar to order a drink when she does, or even walk up to her and pretend that you think she is someone else. Women are used to having men approach them, and they're used to having men go to great lengths just to get close to them. You get close to her under some other, false pretense. She'll be drawn to you.

Once you've gotten her attention some way, use it to your advantage. The first trick is to draw her into some kind of conversation - and then, you must get her to say "yes" to something. "Do you like food?", "Do you like to dance?", "Do you know where the restrooms/coatroom/bar is?", "Can you tell me how to get to blank from here?" "Is this girls' night out?" - something. Once she's said "yes" a couple of times, she'll be more likely to say "yes" to you again.

Now that you've have something of a conversation with her, and you're still holding her attention, and she's associated positive answers with your charming face, you strike. If you have any lines, now is the time to use them. "You know, you have beautiful eyes," that sort of thing. Before she has time to react or respond, quickly follow this with, "So would you like to have dinner/get drinks/go for a walk/fill-in-the-blank tomorrow?" Do not ever, ever, end your asking-out question with the vague "sometime." To really show a woman you're interested, name a day - "would you like to go to a movie Saturday night?" If she doesn't answer yes right away, give her your number, tell her you'll definitely be free and you'd love to hear from her.

She will call.