How to Attract & Keep a Nice Guy

Hello, Lady. Remember me? You snubbed me when I tried to make conversation with you yesterday. I'm the one you looked past, bared your nostrils to when we crossed paths yesterday. Yesterday you gave me no chance, but today I'm hearing or reading that you can't seem to find nice guys. It seems you have an unerring ability to find men who ...

• Break your heart
  
• Break your jaw
  
• Sleep with your girlfriend(s), sister(s), cousin(s), mother, daughter(s) or other female(s)
  
• Ditch you for women with better curves
  
• Insult and make you feel fat, ugly, stupid or worthless
  
• Treat you like property
  
• Treat you like a slave
  
• Treat you like a child
  
• Treat you like a sexual play thing
  
• Leave you home alone or with the children while out doing who knows what until the wee morning hours
  
• Are inconsiderate, such as on your birthday or anniversary--when they bear money but no gifts
  
• Spend money on themselves instead of on birthday or anniversary gifts for their partners
  
• Relieve you of worldly possessions
  
• Vandalize your property
  
• Deceive and manipulate you
  
• Publish or distribute embarrassing photos or videos of you
  
• Are insanely jealous and possessive
  
• Stalk you
  
• Physically threaten you
  
• Violate restraining orders
  
• Are sociopaths
  
• Make calling 911 necessary
  
• Are guilty of at least two of the above.

Now, you're crying to your friends and whoever else will listen and asking, "Where, O, where are the nice guys?" Well, stop your sobbing. If you're serious about wanting to meet nice guys, I'm here to tell you how to attract me, the guy you snubbed or didn't notice yesterday.

Be A Nice Person Yourself. Be honest. Are you nice? Are you deceitful, catty, disloyal, unfaithful, selfish, cold, conceited, snobby, vengeful, rude, mean or generally hateful? If you're not a nice person yourself don't expect to attract and keep my interest.

Be Real. We nice guys dig women with depth. We don't like shallow or materialistic women. Asking me questions merely to ascertain my status is a big turnoff. Show me you're interested in me, not in what I own or earn. Also, be about more than your physical appearance, charm, choice of fragrances and sexual prowess.

Be Friendly. Smile, genuinely. Greet me. Compliment me. Make small talk. Show me you're friendly and approachable or I probably won't approach you.

If You're Attracted To Me Don't Wait For Me To Approach You. I may not see you unless you get my attention--especially in a crowd. We guys typically do the pursuing, but it's refreshing and flattering to be pursued by a woman for a change. By your approaching me I won't think you're sleazy or desperate. Instead, I'll think you're confident, progressive-minded and that you're someone who pursues what she wants. I find these qualities attractive in a woman.

Lose Your Anxiety Over Going Places Alone. So, what if you "don't have anyone to go with"? I'm not going to spontaneously appear at your door and announce, "Nice guy here. Open up." Get your butt out and about.

Cast A Broader Net In Your Search. Don't limit your search to bars, night clubs and personals. Join civic groups. Attend cultural events. Participate in community activities. Participate in sports. Volunteer for charity work. Attend places of worship. Visit bookstores and libraries. Join a group centered around your hobby or interest.

Be Your Sexual Self. I'm still a guy. You don't have to act like a nun around me. Be naughty as you want to be, you silly girl. I want you to be.

Open The Door To Your Heart. Okay. So maybe guys used or mistreated you or broke your heart in the past. You didn't swear off food after eating something that didn't agree with you, did you? Remember, not every guy is a jerk, user, abuser or loser. No one group on Earth is inherently all bad or all good.

Watch Your Attitude. Sour, bitter, cold, rude, mean, snobby or hostile people repel nice people. Be positive and that positivity will shine through and be a beacon that lights the way to your heart.

Dump The Thinking That Nice Guys Are Boring. We like chills and thrills too. We're just not drama addicts. We have brakes and know when to apply them--long before careening off a cliff.