How to Avoid Becoming a Jealous Co-Worker

In a previous article, I shared some of the common jealousies demonstrated by co-workers and offered suggestions for dealing with these situations effectively.

In this article, I go one step further and share how you can avoid becoming a jealous co-worker. It frustrates and upsets you when someone sends it your direction, so why return the favor?

To avoid becoming a jealous co-worker, think about the following before complaining too loudly about someone in the office.

Consider the Reason
If someone else in your office was chosen for a special project, workgroup, or promotion, there's obviously a reason why someone else chose to put him/her in that position. Maybe it's because that person was the most qualified. Maybe it's because that person displayed the best attitude. Maybe it's because that person was the best looking (this is not the conclusion we hope for, as it is completely intolerable).

However, knowing that there was a reason, even if it seemed like a decision made in haste or stupidity, can ease part of your troubled mind.

Confirm the Reason
If the above item just doesn't cut it for you, it might help to talk to your supervisor or the authority figure responsible for making said decision to choose/promote said co-worker. I suggest not being combative by saying, "You made a stupid decision." I would also avoid things like, "How could you pick so-and-so over me?"

Instead, detail your concerns in a professional, rational manner. Then, go one step further: Ask what you can do to improve your projects, how you can increase your chances for being chosen in the future, etc. By showing interest in improving your own work, you're essentially showing your manager that you are professional, dedicated, and accountable. See? There's no need to be jealous when you can be on your way up the ladder, too!

Junk the Reason
Understand that the world is not perfect. At some point, a bad business decision is likely to be made; inevitably, you could be the one to suffer for it. Again, just focus on excelling in your role and focus on your business instead of getting in to other people's business. If your job has been one never-ending cycle of disappointment and you cannot remedy this situation in any way, maybe it's time to look for a new job.

Conclusion
If can be frustrating, even devastating to watch as others in your company are chosen for special projects or given promotions instead of you. You may be the senior employee. You may be the most educated. You may have the most experience. You may question why someone else been chosen over you. But instead of coming to the office angry every day, seek out the answers to your questions and learn how you can improve upon your own work (and, hopefully, create your own opportunities).