How to Avoid Being Clingy in a Loving Relationship
I am going to discuss why it is very important in a loving relationship not to be clingy and overwhelming. There is a huge difference between loving someone and controlling his or her actions, and control should never happen in a relationship.
The first thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is trust the other person totally. They are not like your ex, and will not do the same thing to you. Not every man or every woman is out to break your heart or steal your money. Relax and do not blow a good relationship because you feel selfish.
The second thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that the one you love is in love with who you are. That will not change unless you continue to be selfish and that will only serve to drive that person away. Be yourself, the person they fell in love with and not the person who clings and is selfish.
The third thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is keep yourself busy. When you feel like being clingy usually, it is because you are lonely and keeping busy will eliminate that need. Find a hobby, read a book, visit a friend, or clean your house from top to bottom do anything you can do to avoid being selfish.
The fourth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that one you love has a life which you are a part of. You are not that person's whole life and you should not consume them, for that only brings heartbreak to both of you. Do not try to consume their every waking moment of their life; they have jobs and a life outside of you.
The fifth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is allow the other person to be themselves. You fell in love with that person because of whom they were, and if you cling to them for life support then you are changing them from whom you love. You should never want to change someone you love.
The sixth thing you need to do in order to avoid being clingy is realize that if you try to control the actions of the one you profess to love, you will lose that person. Let that person be him or herself. For if you try to control they will high tail it out of the relationship, as no one likes to be controlled.
There are a lost of reasons not to be clingy or selfish in a loving relationship and I hope I have convinced you not to be either.
Published by AmyBrowne
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15 Comments
Post a CommentI usually let my girlfriend have at least 3 shits before she can contact me...
wow,,this litterally just opened my eyes to things I never knew I was actually doing, but now I know the things I must change to keep my girl, thank you so much for your help.
OMG I had been too clingy and i had thot it was bcause i missed him, but it was actually because i didn't have a life of my own and i depended on him too much. when he left me, i tried to get him back, but he didn't come back altho we didn't break up. then, i just let it go for almost a year, and just yesterday he came back for me and took me out. he said he would come back the day after tomorrow to take me out for dinner, and i hope we will start the relationship all over again. i asked a good friend should i call him today. she said i'm clingy and it's damaging. from this article, i know now that i have to let him do what he wants and let him free. i know i should not call him 9control him) altho i feel the urge. i hope he'll come back and stay forever...
..I forget to put my boyfreind first sometimes and get mad when im not his first priority but I should be happy that there are other things in his life that make him happy and a good person. I need to stop being so selfish...
Omg no wonder why she is mad at me... I'm stupid...
OMG, thnks so much for this!
ummm thanks... this helped a little but yeah thanks for trying to help 8]
Thanks! ive been with my boyfriend for two months now. and i completely trust him. thanks (:
thanks for this. really helped me. i was always wondering why im always so emotional towards my girl but this helped me realize that if im not worrying all the time things will be okay!
this was exactaly wat i needed to read! i didnt realize that some of the things i was doing could be clingy! great post!