How to Avoid Miscommunication with Your Partner

When a man decides to omit information, which has the explosive potential to create a tremendous break in a relationship, thinking, "Oh, there's no possible way she could find out," the man has signed his own death warrant. Since he has conveniently forgotten that women of all ages have the instincts of a bloodhound, as well as the nose, hot on the trail of infidelity, he blithely goes about his business, completely unaware of how his wife finds out everything she needs to know with the surgical precision of a finely honed scalpel.

Actions such as helping a friend find a girlfriend, yet allowing letters to be mailed to his address-in his name-when the friend is the one receiving said letter is not to be taken lightly. Appearances can be damning. In the legal system, it is referred to as "circumstantial evidence," which is how things appear to the public. Many court trials have condemned men to the electric chair based upon circumstances, especially if there has been a prior history of repeat felonies. Naturally, considering a man's previous history, women find it insulting to be discounted as unworthy of faithfulness, considering infidelity-in any form--a felony of the heart.

The simplest misunderstandings can grow exaggeratedly out of control when a man fails to consider how his actions appear to others. The moment he is confronted with the evidence of his indiscretion, all he can think about is, "How did she find out?" He fails to consider the consequences, preferring to place blame rather than accept his wrongdoing as an act of infidelity in the eyes of his partner.

Women make connections in their thought processes that men never consider. Women automatically compare what he has done for friends that he has refused to do for the woman he claims to love. Rightfully believing that friends and family receive a more accurate picture of the situation, she is purposely misled by those who omit information that she deserves to know, deluding her into a false sense of security.

Men make grievous mistakes, stupidly masked in selfishness, convincing themselves that they have done nothing "wrong" when they forget to consider how their behavior might appear to their partners. Remember to assess the situation through the eyes of your partner, remembering that she will see what is most obvious, first. No amount of explanation can erase what is plain to the eye. Inevitably, when the truth comes to the surface, the man must pay the piper his due for his failure to communicate.

When a man has two choices before him, he needs to consider the consequences before leaping into a situation that may be seen as a conflict of interest. At that point, there is only one irreversible decision to make. Choose to make a decision with your partner uppermost in your mind, successfully navigating the path to happiness and tranquility with a sigh of relief.