How to Avoid the Problems in Marriages?
That certainly is true. The increasing number of divorces in nearly every country on earth is an evidence of that.
However, does this mean that living together without marriage is more endurable, a better way to happiness?
Which Is Stronger?
The claim is made that a relationship by choice is stronger than a relationship by obligation. But which is really stronger: One that is promised to last only one day at a time until something comes up that a person doesn't want to cope with? or one that is prepared to adjust to unforeseen circumstances and lasts as long as possible?
Many problems are the same. For example, decisions on such things as where to live, how much independence each should have, what sex practices to accept, and whether to have children are common to both married persons and those living together without marriage.
But without the marriage commitment other problems are compounded. For example, what major items should be purchased and with whose money? Who should know that they are not married, and who shouldn't know? What personal friends can they invite to the home, and how are they going to introduce themselves to others? How are one's own family and close relatives to be faced? These are just a few of the things made more difficult without the commitment of marriage.
A Deeper Reason
There is a much deeper reason why marriage is the better arrangement for all concerned, and why, as Dr. Graham said, "we have found no better way to raise a child than in a family setting." It has to do with the way we are made.
Obviously, the human mind and emotions are very complex things. Who, then, is to say how they work best in male-female relationships, as well as where children are concerned?
Well, would not the Creator of the male and female, the one who designed the childbearing capabilities, be in the best position to know? Surely, the Maker of the two sexes can tell us why he created them and how a relationship among them will work best.
One purpose was companionship and another involved the producing of offspring, since the female is spoken of as "a complement" of the male. Further, such a stable marriage relationship would provide the best atmosphere for raising children.
Experiences show that, in general, children who know that their parents were not married grow up to distrust people. The indicators all point to one conclusion: the higher the commitment, the more likely the success of the relationship for all involved.
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