How to Behave with Children

When it comes to control children it is indeed a tough situation. But there are so many things where you think your children gives you a lot stress. The problem many times is with us and not with them. Children follow their parents. A child during his 1 to 7 years, learn and copy almost all things from his parents. This won't apply to those, where children are kept outside in day care. When children grow with their parents, they learn almost all things from them. If the parents behave differently while children watch them, It makes a great impact on them. The parents have to take ultimate care so that their children get the correct message. There could be many difficult moments but, the parents must handle the situation in proper manner and should not send any wrong signals towards their children. These are the moments when children learn so many things from their parents. You may find them busy with their toys but, children observe every single details. That is the reason why I say the problem is with us.

Once you agree that the problem is in our own behavior then we need to look in deep inside and study our behavior as a parents. Are we good parents? Do we portrait a clean and clear picture of our self to our children. Do we practice what we preach them? All these things matters most when you want your children to follow good manners. How do you treat your parents? If we give trouble to our aged parents how can we expect our children to listen to us. We must take maximum efforts to be a good and understanding parents.

Children often ask unending questions. Don't stop them. They are learning and wants to know so many things which they see daily happening around them. Parents often feel stressed here as some of the questions children ask, put them in awkward situation. Take your own time. Promise your children you would reply them after some time. Buy some time this way. Find out how best you can reply their question and then take them near to you and reply them in best possible way without any confusion in their mind. Do not get irritated since they ask questions. Unless you reply their questions, where would they find the answers.

Share your activities with your children. If your child is not brushing his teeth properly, take him with you and show him how you brush your teeth and gargle your mouth. explain him why you do this. Children likes to copy what their parents do. The parents should take maximum interest in children activities. Organize their playing area and keep it clean. Then you can ask then to help you in cleaning their playing area. Tell them the importance of keeping your home clean. Do not order them if you wish them to carry out the cleaning job. Request them to help you in cleaning. Children don't appreciate the orders all the time. You must get involve with them in their activity. You will find them taking interest once are with them.

There are certain moments when children do the wrong things. You need to explain the children as what wrong they have done. Punishment by making them stand at the corner for 5 minutes and demand assurance from them that they would not repeat the same and ask them to say sorry for what they have done. Here, they must realize that they did not do the right thing and in future, if they do so again, it will not be tolerated by the parents. The message should be clear. Remember one thing, when you do some wrong thing in the heat of the moment, you must also say sorry to them and assure them you will not do this again. Almost same rule, this how children learn from their parents.

When you are in discussion with your children and explaining something to them, see that you bend on your knees and try to be with their height and then explain the whole matter by looking in to their eyes. Eye contact is must so that your message can reach straight to them. Let them also look in to your eyes for the successful communication. Keep your voice as low as possible. Choose the right time to explain. Take him to his bedroom and then explain. Children too have their ego. This way the children will respond you nicely. These are the things which will make them strong in the future. They will carry correct guidelines from you.

Talking with them and understanding their problems is a skillful job. You must frequently talk with them by making them comfortable with you all the time. Only then, they will discuss their problem with you. No matter, how small the problem is, you must encourage them to explain it to you without any fear. Once these healthy relations are built between the parent and the children, they will always tell you the truth and thus there will not be any confusion in the children's mind. Listen to his success and failure stories with same intensity. Help them through their failures. Constantly encourage them. Do not ever compare them with others with regards to their failures. Every child is different and special too.

How parents behave in the family is the main concern. Do not smoke or drink and if that must, at least, do it when they are not around. If you have any confrontation with your partner, better resolve it outside or in your bedroom. Keep the volume as low as possible. Children gets confused when their parents start fighting in front of them. Do not confuse them. Parents sometimes, order their children to bring their things from other room. Do your things on your own. Your children will learn the same thing and start doing their things on their own. If you are going out for party or a movie, tell them that where you are going and by what time you would come back. Explain them why you can't take them with you. But tell the truth and go. They will understand this and follow the same when they will grow young.