How to Be a Better Dater

If you want to be a better dater, you have to increase a skill set. Just like swimming or biking, being a better dater isn't something that's just natural. It can and should be learned. Most people think that if you ask advice to be a better dater, you're some kind of loser; yet this topic is one of the most requested, and entire industries spring up around this very question. So here's how to be a better dater.

To be a better dater first requires that your life be exciting. Good dates have good stories. So the first step in being a better dater is to stop dating. Have those experiences that you have always wanted to alone. That way, when you date, you'll have those stories to tell.

After you have all your stories and adventures lined up to tell, the second step to be a better dater is to make connections. You want your dates to feel special because of the exclusivity of the date. A restaurant with a huge reservation period, but you got in. A special spot that only the in-crowd knows about. You meet these connections by simply doing step 1.

r you have your life and connections together, to be a better dater requires that you learn how to get into the other person. I know step 1 was all about getting experience, but the first thing you should do on a date is listen. Especially if you're a guy reading this; on a first date, a woman doesn't care what you have to say. At all. Eye contact is a lovely way to get into a person, even if you don't want to. Don't overuse the technique, but if the other person is speaking passionately, look directly into their eyes. They'll automatically associate those feelings of being really heard with you, and make you a better dater in their mind.

The last step to be a better dater is your exit. The date can actually be pretty mediocre, but if you make the other person feel like it is truly regrettable that the night is ending, they will feel special and wanted, and you'll be a better dater. Make a big deal out of the end of the date. If you don't want to see them again, don't fake it; just say that "even though we had an exquisite time, I don't think we're compatible. But I can't believe I met a person who actually blah blah blah!!" To be a better dater means to make everyone feel special, not just those that you want something from. Do this, and good dating karma will come back to you in spades. Good luck!