How to Get Your Boyfriend to Stop Playing Games and Commit to You

A man is only going to do what you allow him to do. If you have allowed him full benefits without a commitment, then why should he commit? You first have to change how you do things in your relationship and commit to yourself before you can get your boyfriend to commit to a serious relationship.

One of the common mistakes a woman make is believing a man is automatically suppose to know when the woman is ready to have serious relationship with them. If you never made it clear from the very moment you wanted to take the relationship to a commitment level, then do not have a psychotic meltdown when you see your boyfriend out with another girl. The first thing he is going to say when confronted is, "I didn't know we were serious like that!" or if your real lucky, he may say "Who are you?" acting like he doesn't even know you at all, as a front for the other girl. Then what do you do? be right back with him days later.

To avoid such humiliation and heart break, know where you stand in your boyfriends eyes. If he does not see a commitment in what you will not tolerate, in how you respect yourself and in getting what you want out of the relationship, then he will not see a commitment in you. This is when you need to transform yourself into commitment material.

To get your man to commit, you must be commitment material and send all your misleading messages out the window. You cannot say, "I love you!" today, but say, "I hate your ugly freaking guts!" tomorrow. You cannot give him sex Monday, and then punish him with no sex Tuesday with claims of suddenly feeling distrust in him. You knew you were feeling that way Monday while you two were getting your groove on. Being consistent in your relationship can be difficult considering all couples have disagreements or vicious arguments. Meaning what you say and saying what you really mean, lets your boyfriend know what you expect out of him and what boundaries not to cross.

Men love it when you send mixed signals because it allows them to play games. Every one of the mixed messages you send will be returned to you with clever manipulation schemes that will make you regret the day you met your boyfriend. For example, If you want him to stop hanging out with his female friends, he will challenge you on why you have a problem with hanging out with girls now, by making the point that you did not appear to care when you two first hooked up and sarcastically explain how he could have been sexing his female friends back then. His question will be, "why you do not trust me now, but yet you trusted me with girls back then?" Were you lying to yourself then, or are you lying to yourself now???

In the end you will be the one left feeling guilty and stupid, because if you were honest about your feelings from the beginning and if he was made aware of the rules you wanted established in your relationship, then he either would have ran fast and far or would have honored your wishes. It would have been easier on your heart if he was alerted to your relationship requirements from the start, because he would have skipped out before deeper feelings got involved. So the most important way to get him to commit is to let him know from the first intimate moment how serious you are about him being a one-woman man and you being a one-man woman.

One of the most entertaining ways to get your boyfriend to commit to a serious relationship is to play his games. Men never realize how irritating and hurtful their games really are until you play the game with them. I guarantee if you start hanging out with guy friends, stand him up on a date night or don't show for him to have a private moment with you, he will come whining about how you are treating him like crap and claiming that you must be seeing someone else since you are not taking the relationship seriously. Sound familiar??? That is when you drop the bomb on him by comparing such behavior with his and ask him to distinguish the difference. Then you should pull out your camera phone to snap a picture of the dumb look on his face because he is not able to and have discovered you just played his games better than him.

Commitment is a wonderful thing as long as both parties are willing participants. If you are committed and he isn't it, the relationship will never work. That is exactly what you need to tell him. If he loves you and do not want to lose you, being told the relationship is not working due to a lack of commitment, then he will do whatever it takes to keep you. If he doesn't, then you need to figure out do you really want to be committed to a man who doesn't love you enough to do the same?