How to Bring About Family Closeness

Watching the words you use with the family is a huge deal. What you say and how you go about saying it makes a big impact on everyone.

Being sarcastic and tossing around put downs to one another can cause damage that last a long time in ones life when we attack each other.

Even when you are upset try and speak to each other with respect, It can really enhance the amount of affection people have for one another.

I know myself when I speak loud and show no respect to my other half I get nothing out of it and it turns into a no win thing and much hurt follows, Then later in the day comes regret for what ended up being said & you can say I'm sorry so many times. We all say and do things we regret later, but try not to lash out, take a moment before you speak.

Touching someone close to you shows much closeness in your life, It has more power then words, it lets the person you love know you see them, you know they are there, that they mean so much to you because you took time in passing to stop and put your hand on theirs etc...It sends a powerful message . A kiss on the cheek, a squeeze on the shoulder sends a message to your kids also that you love them and know they are their. My son will be coloring while I wash the dishes , I can stop the dishes walk over to him and give him a kiss on the forehead, The look on his face is comforting as he smiles.

Making memories
During the holidays making those special candies or grandmas cookies, the songs we sing and the family we see , all these memories our children will pass on to their children who then will also make memories of there own to share with their families when we pass on. The family vacations, the fires on the beach the sticks we found to cook the hot dogs over a open flame, the seagullsthat chased the marshmallows we tossed in the air. The giant Gator we made in the sand and made a tunnel of water around him. Those are memories we share with the younger family members when we all get together.
Memories are what we all live on it keeps our spirits young and our hearts strong. Make many of them for your children its the only gift that keeps forever.

Eating together

I'm very big on the family eating together, That is the one time when everyone is all together to share things about their day good or bad. To plan things for the following day and work out the kinks of the gone wrong on the present day. All day before dinner and all night after dinner everyone is doing their own thing work, shopping, school etc... dinner time is a short family time.

Living your values

Actions speak louder then words when you believe in something or want to help out with a food pantry etc... don't just send in money or drop off something, Take your kids shopping with you pick out things together and take it all to the church or the food pantry together, helping people is my big thing, I'm not happy unless i do something for someone in need of something, I'm always getting things for other people. My son says to me one day "mom that is scary that you got that girl summer shirts you don't really know her only from seeing her at school". I told him I see her family a lot and they are having it very hard and it makes me feel good to know they wont have to worry about the few things she needed and can use their money for something they need more now. He understands Little now. Tell your kids what you believe in and live it not all the time but act on things so they get values of their own .