How to Be a Caring Husband

Dear male readers, I am not against you. What I am trying to say is, by being a more caring person towards your wife, you can bring stability and more strength to your married life.

A woman marries a man and leaves her own house and come to stay with her husband. She leaves behind all her relations. She tries to adopt a new culture which takes some time. She has to deal with your parents and other members if any in the house. Then the children enters in the picture once they are born. Now she is full time busy looking after them. You are the one,from whom she expects much support. You try your best to help her in every possible way but, its not enough. Doing your own part and share of work is fine. Doing some thing beyond that, is what called as caring.

Soon after marriage, on her birthday, you gave her a beautiful present which she has still kept it in a cupboard very carefully. There are lot of her feelings with that gift of yours. I am sure, you must be celebrating her birthday every year with some kind of gift. Have you ever brought a fresh flower bouquet without any occasion and surprised her ?.

On week ends you take her for a dinner and movie. She is delighted. She enjoys that. Instead, have you ever tried to give her a full rest on week end and tried to cook the food of her choice. She will surely like it for the efforts you took to cook the food. There must be some mutual understanding between both of you as, I do this and you do that. Breaking this mutual understanding and extending your helping hand would surely give her a great relief. You, normally leave your children behind with your parents and go with her for a dinner or movie. She wants her children with her. You do not prefer this as you need to look after them and can't enjoy the evening. Why don't you take the lead and look after your children showing some more patience and make your wife satisfied and happy.

Your children have started going to school now. Your wife has some more time free for her compared to earlier days. Encourage her for higher studies. If she has left behind the music lessons, convince her to complete those. Give her your whole hearted and active support to build her career. Let her not waste her talent. You need to take an extra effort by involving your self more in to home matters than before. She will always be thankful to you for this extra effort, which would give her an opportunity to establish her self.

Normally when you return home from office, you declare your self as you are tired. Think of your partner who is equally tired and yet welcomes you with a beautiful smile so that you feel comfortable at home. You frequently discuss your office tensions with her and expect her to get involve with your tension and understand you. She too has many tensions and stressful moments at home behind you. Talk to her and listen what she has to say. Help her in solving her problems. Discuss the problem at the root level. Check up her views on the same. Do not impose your decision on her. Try to get the best possible solution and resolve the issue. Go out with her for a walk and for privacy so that she can explain you the problem properly without letting it know any one in the house. There are certain delicate issues which needs some privacy to discuss.

She is living with you and your parents since you got married. She takes care of your parents while you are away for your work. Once a while, on holidays, take her to her parents. Talk to them and show them how much you care for them. It should come from within and naturally. Talk nicely to her brother and sister. Discuss with them how they are progressing in their respective life. Guide them if need be. These are very small things which counts a lot.

This is what i mean about a caring and sensitive husband. By giving her surprise gifts and costly jewelery, you can't prove you are a caring person. Just taking her care when she was not well, would not mean you are a caring person. It was your duty to be with her all the time when she was not well. You need to walk that extra mile in your married life to be called as caring person. Something extra, which is beyond your duties and responsibilities. I am sure, you won't hesitate to walk that extra mile in your happily married life and strengthen your relationship. She will make your life beautiful. Trust me.