How to Be a Christian Father
It is hard enough to be a good father in today's society. It is even more difficult to be a Christian father. Even though it is hard to do facing the things the world throws at us, it is not impossible. Here are a few tips on being a Christian father.
- Give the television a rest and reconnect with the kids. Get to know your kids and what they are up to. You will find playing games and other non-television related activities you will develop a closer personal relationship with your kids.
- Discipline with love and not with anger." My son, do not despise the Lord's discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in." - Proverbs 3: 11-12Discipline is no doubt the hardest thing in parenting for a father. Work with your children to establish boundaries and appropriate punishments for crossing the line. Consistency is the key to discipline, so make sure your punishment is consistent with the action.
- Make a good impression - lead by example. Your children whether you realize it or not observe your daily behavior. Before you expect godly behavior from your children you have to set an example your self.
- Teach your children the ways of the Lord. God holds each parent accountable to teach their children His ways. As a father and head of the family, it is your responsibility to make sure your family is God-centered. Children need to learn to apply godly principles to their lives at an early age. This I not only in church-related matters, but also in every aspect of daily life.
- Treat your children's mother with respect. Your relationship with your wife is where children first learn about relationships between men and women. When your son sees how you treat your wife with respect, it sets the tone in how he will treat women in the future. Your daughters it will set the standard for future relationships with men and will settle for nothing less than respect in a relationship.
- Do not be afraid to show affection. Your kids' need a hug and an "I love you" just as your wife does. "Filled with love and compassion, he ran to his son, embraced him, and kissed him." - Luke 15: 17-24
- Learn patience and forgiveness. Despite your love and guidance, your children will make mistakes. Your children need to know that you will be patient and forgiving. " The mark of a loving parent is the willingness to forgive." - Luke 15: 17-24
- When your children speak, make sure you listen. You need to understand before trying to be understood. Many fathers do the wrong thing by laying down the law before listening to their children and trying to understand why their child is acting up. This is especially true in teenagers. You need to carefully listen to your children to understand from their point of view.
- Combine your church family and your family. Instead of purchasing, the latest parenting book, talk to other parents in your church. There is a good chance they have been where you are now.
- The most important thing is to love your children. Make sure you tell your children you love them and show them through your godly character. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres." - I Corinthians 13: 4-7
Published by Allen Bell
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- Give the television a rest and reconnect with the kids
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- Learn patience and forgiveness
Consistency is the key to discipline, so make sure your punishment is consistent with the action.
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Post a Commentthese include peace, one of the spiritual fruits (John 15:5).
Father which is in heaven.¡±
There should not be any worry if a person does not have confidence whether he has received the Holy Spirit before, he should not hesitate but to ask for the receipt of the Holy Spirit since spiritual baptism only takes effect once. Once a person has received the Holy Spirit, he would not receive any more in the future since Ephesians 4:5, ¡°(mentions that) One Lord, one faith, one baptism¡±. The phrase, one baptism, in Ephesians 4:5 implies one spiritual baptism instead of more than once.
Now, let¡¯s meditate Matthew 5:9 again: Matthew 5:9, ¡°Blessed [are] the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God¡±. As we know once a person receives Jesus Christ to be His Personal Saviour, his spiritual fruits will grow and these include peace in God and that is why Jesus mentions Matthew 5:9 to be appropriate since Christians would have their spiritual fruits to grow and th
acknowledge the resurrection of Jesus and that meets the requirement of Romans 10:9. Not only that, it requires non-Christians to confess their sins before God for purification and also to express their needs for Jesus Christ to be their Personal Saviour. One should bear in mind that God will deny those people that believe in Jesus and yet refuse to proclaim the name of Jesus. The following are the extracts:
1) Luke 9:26, ¡°For whosoever shall be ashamed of me and of my words, of him shall the Son of man be ashamed, when he shall come in his own glory, and [in his] Father's, and of the holy angels.¡±
2) Luke 12:8-9, ¡°Also I say unto you, Whosoever shall confess me before men, him shall the Son of man also confess before the angels of God: But he that denieth me before men shall be denied before the angels of God.¡±
3) Matthew 10:32, ¡°Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my F
receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.¡± The same is supported in Mark 11:24, ¡°(that) Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive [them], and ye shall have [them].¡±
Romans 10:9, ¡°(mentions) That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.¡± This verse implies that our faith should be grounded upon the resurrection of Jesus. Muslims too believe in Jesus, but they reject the resurrection of Jesus. However, Romans 10:9 demands not only to confess Jesus but also to believe He has been resurrected.
Sinner¡¯s prayer has met the requisition of the confession since it demands non-Christians to confess themselves before God of their believes in the name of Lord Jesus Christ. It demands also the non-Christians to ackn
Holy Spirit. However, their requests could only be fulfilled until after Jesus¡¯ resurrection in the Calvary.
3) Luke 11:13, ¡°If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall [your] heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?¡±
From the above extracts, these give an absolute certainty that a person could receive the Holy Spirit through requesting for the receipt of it.
Bear in mind that Romans 8:9, ¡°(mentions that)¡if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.¡± As the phrase, any man have not the Spirit of Christ, is mentioned in Romans 8:9 with the phrase, he is none of his, it implies that those people, that do not have the Holy Spirit/Jesus Christ with them, are not considered to be Christians at all.
Assurance from God that we will receive the Holy Spirit when we ask from Him: Luke 11:10, ¡°For every one that asketh recei
The following are the extracted verses to prove that Jesus and even His disciples did request for the receipt of the Holy Spirit:
1) John 4:10, ¡°Jesus answered and said unto her, If thou knewest the gift of God, and who it is that saith to thee, Give me to drink; THOU WOULDEST HAVE ASKED OF HIM, and he would have given thee living water.¡± The phrase, have asked of him, in John 4:10 has stressed the significance of the request for the Holy Spirit.
2) John 6:32-34, ¡°Then Jesus said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Moses gave you not that bread from heaven; but my Father giveth you the true bread from heaven. For the bread of God is he which cometh down from heaven, and giveth life unto the world. THEN SAID THEY UNTO HIM, LORD EVERMORE GIVE US THIS BREAD.¡± The phrase, Then said they unto him Lord evermore give us this bread, in John 6:34 is another proof that Jesus¡¯ disciples did request for the receipt of the Ho
and Buddha at the same time. The phrase, God heareth not sinners, in John 9:31 implies purity is significant for non-Christians¡¯ conversions and prior to the receipt of the Holy Spirit and that is why it demands non-Christians to repent and to confess their sins before God to have their sins to be cleansed for purity. Thus, it is significant for all the people that declare to believe in Jesus Christ to have their sins to confess before God especially Psalms 5:4, ¡°(mentions that) For thou [art] not a God that hath pleasure in wickedness: neither shall evil dwell with thee.¡± Psalms 5:4 seems to highlight to us that God would not dwell among non-Christians if sins are with them. For this reason, it is advisable for all the people that declare to believe in Jesus Christ to confess their sins before God so as to have their sins to be cleansed with purity for God¡¯s dwelling.
Did the Gospel highlight to us to request for the Holy Spirit?
within their bodies at the absence of biblical truth in them. Thus, it is a must for non-Christians to declare before God to be sinners to seek His forgiveness. The absolute promise of God for those who confess their sins before Him and that is: 1 John 1:9, ¡°If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.¡±
Repentance and confession are significant to non-Christians for their receipts of the Holy Spirit since John 9:31, ¡°(mentions that)¡God heareth not sinners: but if any man be a worshipper of God, and doeth his will, him he heareth.¡± The phrase, God heareth not sinners, in John 9:31 implies God¡¯s rejection of those non-Christians that insist not to repent and continuing in worshipping Buddha and the insisting that they are not sinners before God. These people would have their prayers to be in vain even if they declare to believe Jesus Chri
, ¡°(even mentions that) Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls.¡± As the phrase, lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, is mentioned in James 1:21 prior to the phrase, receive¡the engrafted word, it implies the significance of repentance prior to receiving Jesus as his or her Personal Saviour.
Why should a non-Christian confess sin? 1 John 1:8, ¡°If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.¡± As the phrase, we say that we have no sin, is mentioned in 1 John 1:8 with the phrase, the truth is not in us, it implies that non-Christians would not have God¡¯s truth with them if they declare that they are not sinners. As God¡¯s truth is not with non-Christians if they do not confess that they are sinners before God, there is a query whether God would dwel
Abraham our father justified by works, when he had offered Isaac his son upon the altar? Seest thou how faith wrought with his works, and by works was faith made perfect? And the scripture was fulfilled which saith, Abraham believed God, and it was imputed unto him for righteousness: and he was called the Friend of God. YE SEE THEN HOW THAT BY WORKS A MAN IS JUSTIFIED, AND NOT BY FAITH ONLY.¡± The same is mentioned in James 2:18-19, ¡°(that) Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: SHEW ME THY FAITH WITHOUT THY WORKS, AND I WILL SHEW THEE MY FAITH BY WORKS. Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble.¡±
Should a non-Christian repent for their sins or should he or she declare to believe in Jesus and yet worship Buddha simultaneously? John the Baptist went before Jesus to declare repentance and this shows that repentance is significant for Christianity¡¯s conversion. James