How to Communicate and How Not to Communicate in Relationship

Communication is something which is very important in our lives. It happens in our everyday life, there's always interaction between people and us. Often those interactions takes place in places where we relax and socialize with our friends.

Communication skills are very important especially when having healthy relationship. Pretty often relationships are breaking down because the lack of communication and negation in them. We should realize that communication should be at the heart of our relationships because small things which are not spoken quite often raise to be big issues. In relationships arguments can be the most destructive.

Do You find yourself from these situations at times?

"He never listens to me when I talk"

"She really talks but actually says nothing"

"It's like talking to a wall"

Did you know that speaking only makes about 10 to 20 percent of communication and the rest of the communication is in expressions, body language, tone of your voice and so on?

Communication is something where you are transferring your own thoughts to understandable information for another human being.

Listening is not passive process. It doesn't mean to be done on a sofa watching tv without giving it any interest. That just makes the situation worse .

Don't argue when you're angry. Also remember when you are angry, you can write a lots of nasty things in SMS message and they are not like spoken words, they can be read later as well.

Remember to give feedback to your partner. Be sure you know what he or she means. Check and confirm it that you understand correctly? Ask: Is this what you mean? I heard you say this is that true? Often missunderstandings just lead to bigger problems.

So how to resolve conflicts?

In common, there are two ways for conversations : Constructive or destructive

Destructive style:

Win or lose attitude in argument

Focusing on weak points

Blackmailing with something

Giving in every time

Avoiding discussions

Constructive style:

Compromise and try to meet up halfway, try to understand your partner

Have open discussions with your partner, remember that honesty is important.

Remember that trying to sweep the problem under the carpet isn't going to work those issues are going to go come back later

Remember to ask a person how they feel. Your goal is to sort out the problem, not to win the argument.

Don't bring anyone else in to fix your problems. If you have problems with someone always go directly to that person instead of trying to solve them by using someone else. Don't use children as a weapon! Try to keep it as an open discussion and not to dump your anger into someone else by talking nasty about him/her to your friends or to your children.