How to Compromise in Relationships
How To Compromise In Relationships
Be reasonable
When there is something we really want, we tend to cling on and ask for it over and over again. Whether it's an expensive new outfit, a new car or even something simple like deciding where to eat dinner, it can still cause disagreements. Before you continue to plead after your partner says no, take a moment to think about the thing you're asking for. Do you really need it? If the decision is a small one about something silly like where to eat, try to remember the last time your partner chose the restaurant. If you are the one who always gets what you want, consider backing down or you risk jeopardising what you have.
Explain and listen
When it comes to compromise in relationships, both sides of every argument need to be heard. A one way exchange of one person always getting what they want and the other being shouted down is not a good way to live. If you want something, explain the reasons why. Do so carefully and without shouting. When you have had your say, listen to the reasons your partner is against it. After a healthy discussion, it will be much easier to reach a satisfactory conclusion.
Respect each others needs
Respect is one of the most important factors in any partnership. Compromise in relationships isn't about one person always getting what they want and the other constantly giving. There should be a balance. If you find are the one who always gets what you want, ask yourself how long you think this can go on before your partner feels they can't give anymore. On the other side of the coin, if you are the one who is always giving in, ask yourself why. Your needs are just as important as your partner's. Perhaps they need to hear the word "no" and understand that you will not be trampled over.
Compromise in relationships always takes a little time to work itself out. It won't happen overnight, especially in a new relationship when the boundaries are still being set. To make compromise in relationships work for you takes patience, understanding and a little self discipline. Don't let petty arguments ruin your relationship. Respect each other's needs and work together to resolve every disagreement.
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11 Comments
Post a CommentGreat advice. This is so difficult to do though. In my experience, compromise ends up coming as a result of both party's unwillingness to compromise. It ends up just happening, or it doesn't and the relationship ends.
This is excellent advice Karen.
Great job Karen! Compromise is definitely a big deal, but it can make or break your relationships.
Excellent! =0)
Excellent points. Great job on this.
I think that the problem with compromising is that many people in relationships lack a true honesty of themselves and their motives. Often couples find themselves arguing but do not even understand why they are arguing. You can't compromise if you do not know what you are saying?
Good advice:)
I am terrible at giving in. Thankfully Matt usually does just to shut me up!
I see your point. However, In my experience of dating, and the experiences of my friends, men are usually more complacent and prefer to be the one who "gives in" for the sake of a quiet life. If that is the way they choose to go, then if they really see it as a defeat, they should speak up. :) Anyone who doesn't understand the concept of compromise is ultimately going to be very unhappy or very lonely.
In my experience as a counselor, men feel that compromise is equal to giving "up"--not giving "in," and usually take it as a defeat. Isn't there another solution? Another way to frame it?