How to Confront the Boss

Your boss at work may be irritating, pushy and arrogant, but he's still the boss right? Being the boss of a major organization demands respect, and the tile itself can be intimidating, after all this is the guy that could fire you at the stroke of a pen! Sometimes we have great bosses, but other times we have real jerks either way there will come a time when you have to stand up to him or her and be noticed. Confrontation is never easy and if you're like most people you will try to avoid it at every turn, but this is not healthy. You can't live your life in fear of others, so this guide will help you prepare for a talk with the big man.

Make sure you know what you're going to say. Don't get ahead of your self and walk into a battle you can't win. Make sure you have a list of facts ready to rattle off at a moments notice; this will make it easy for your boss to understand your point of view, whatever it may be, or at least make a good argument. Practice talking to your boss by talking to yourself, or to a friend, this will help build confidence.

See if anyone else in your office or work area feels or thinks the same way you do. If you have a particularly nasty boss then I'm sure that your feelings are shared in this small community. Talk to co-workers and get their take on the subject, call a meeting of these employees and see if you can talk to the boss in a group. Often times a group will have a leader who stands out among them, and if that position is not for you, having a group as backup is a wonderful thing. Also this action will allow your boss to see that his actions have effected the organization in a negative way, forcing him or her to reconsider their current position on policies, pay or other work related affairs.

Dress in accordance to the situation. Make sure your clothes make a bold statement that lets people around you know that you are a cool, calm and confident individual. This may sound far fetched but often times what someone is wearing can greatly affect whether or not they attain their goal. Red is the color of confidence, so if you're in an office job wear red complimentary colors, like a tie for instance. If your job is more casual, then try and incorporate this color in some fashion. Also be aware of your personal appearance as well, have mints on hand for fresh breath, your hair combed, and your teeth clean. It might be hard for the boss to take someone with spinach in their teeth seriously.

When actually talking to the boss speak clam and slowly, also try not to studded or stammer as this may look like a sign of weakness to your boss. Look him or her directly in the eye making sure to focus on that contact. Speak in a reassured tone, not loud and threatening but confident. Don't joke around, or allow him to change the subject, keep in mind the real reason why you're making this venture. Try to avoid fidgeting, like tapping your fingers on a desk, twiddling your thumbs, looking around the room and so on. Keep the attention of your boss and make sure before the conversation is over that your point is crystal clear, you don't want any other misunderstanding to arise in the future.

Bosses are irritating, annoying, rude and so on, but they too are people. Don't ever think that someone is better then you because of their position in a company, they are human. They bleed, they cry they have feelings just like you and I so don't be intimidated by their position of power!

Above all else show respect to your boss, after all they do employ you and regardless of how much we hate it, they do hold the power to end our careers with the stroke of a pen. Though they do command us to do their bidding at will, but they too have stresses and problems of their own. Often times your boss, will have people above him so he may at one point be thrust into your position, you may take comfort in that, so as your speaking make sure you think about the rolls being reveres, living in another persons shoes so to speak, you may find an air of respect for your boss that you never had before, and he may do the same for you.