How to Connect with Your Aging Relatives Through Family History

Many people have aging relatives. And, many of those people have an interest in history. But, sadly, very few of those people ever connect the two. The true history of any culture is not hidden in the government, or a cause, or even in a newsworthy event. The true history is in the everyday lives of the citizens. These are the stories we hear when we are kids. And, as a keeper of history, they are the one's we should seek out before the tales pass away with their keepers.

An older relative, whether in a nursing home, retirement community, or sitting in their home, can be an invaluable source of history. Stories of family, and community, are waiting there to be told. So, we must build the generational bonds with our elders, grasp this history, and hold it dear.

A visit with an aging relative will strengthen the bond between the two of you. This, in turn, will allow you the access to talk with them. Who doesn't like to talk about themselves? So, ask questions. Then, be prepared for the hard part, listening to the stories. Really listen and ask questions about the stories. This will lead to more tales.

Help your relative with their chores in daily life. This is a more relaxed way to connect with them. It is also a chance to hear a new type of story. "We used to do this in this way." "I remember when I used to do this with them." And many more memories will spew forth when you find the proper outlet.

You can take a vacation with your loved one. You can go to their birth place, a favorite vacation spot from the past, or, even a place they have always wanted to visit. If you just ask, most people will be happy to take a trip with someone who is genuinely interested in them and their life.

By asking questions you will unlock the history of your family and community. Just one member of the older generation holds a history of themselves, their family, their friends, and their little corner of the world. So, don't be shy. You can learn about local haunted houses, religious beliefs, or even the secret family recipe for cheesecake.

Being a keeper of history is as simple as asking questions and caring enough to listen to the answers and stories. You have a relative waiting to tell their tale. So, go and connect with them. Love them, learn from them, preserve their history, and maybe one day, a younger member of your family will collect those stories from you.