How to Control Feelings of Jealousy

Jealousy is a natural feeling that everyone has felt and has had to deal with in relationships. Some have more insecurity issues than others that can cause irrational accusations resulting in anger and lack of trust from both parties. Uncontrolled jealousy can spell disaster for any couple if not under control.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love you should be able to confide in them. Open communication is key in all relationships. Jealousy built up inside created out of your insecurities will have more negative repercussions in the end than bringing up what is bothering you. Having an open discussion with your partner about what is tearing you up inside will help you to understand what may be causing these feelings and how the two of you can work together to avoid fighting. Incessant accusations of cheating, especially when there isn't solid ground for accusing, is not how to discuss jealousy with your partner. Pointing fingers will only result in a blow up.

Talking about feelings of jealousy can help you understand what is behind it. You may already even know. Past relationships where trust was broken by cheating can leave a person feeling very insecure and put your self-esteem in the toilet. Your ex left you in a state of worthlessness and overcoming that can be a difficult task. Communicating your past relationship difficulties with your partner and how they hurt you will make controlling your jealousy issues a team effort. Aside from your partner, turn to friends and family for a venting outlet. Most times, they will be able to help you see that your jealousy holds no weight for accusation.

Thinking to yourself about what triggers your jealousy is the starting point of controlling it. Bring to mind the most recent jealousy invoking incident. What was it that got your mind racing about the security of your partnership? Did you see your partner talking to the opposite sex? Maybe your other half has a new friend of the opposite sex. Are they wanting to go out with just the guys or the girls? Or was it just a simple comment on a celebrity during a movie together? What ever it may be, keep in mind that if you love one another, you need to trust one another. Work from your jealousy initiation point and ask yourself how rational you are really being. Let your partner know that you were having a moment and take a deep breath. Try to dig deep into the starting point and ask yourself why that would make you insecure and what your partner has done to make you insecure with them.

Acknowledging your insecurities and vocalizing them is the ultimate way to curb fights of jealousy and keep it in control. Communication with your partner will help you build the essential building block of trust for a confident, long lasting and loving relationship.