How to Control Temper Tantrums

All kids throw tantrums, but how do parents deal with the embarrassing task of controlling them at home and out in public? You want to do the right thing and help them with whatever they are upset about. Sometimes they really don't know how to tell you why they are frustrated, so they throw a fit or scream at the top of their lungs. Most of the time they throw tantrums to get attention or because they are not satisfied with their current situation. Being in a high chair or in someone's arms when they would like to be on the ground running around is an example.

When a child throws a tantrum at home, it's a little easier to deal with, although it can be very aggravating. At home, the tantrum is less embarrassing and people aren't staring and judging your ability to be a parent. People make all kinds of comments and nothing is good enough for strangers when you have your kids out in public. For example, it was chilly outside around 45 degrees when I was pushing my 6 month old in a stroller and the people passing us made the comment, "Oh good, she is bundled up it's too cold to have babies out for a walk." Like these people were the weather police. Then another time my daughter was throwing a tantrum at the grocery store in the produce section. This older lady said as she pushed her cart by,"Can't people control their kids." She was acting like we were inconveniencing her and in her way near the apples.

Some tips on dealing with tantrums at home are walking out of the room and not giving the child the attention they want. If you make it a big deal like they want, then it will continue to be a big deal. According to my daughter's pediatrician, you just have to ignore the tantrum unless they are in danger.

Tantrums out in public are more difficult because your supposed to let them get it out of their system, but that's not always possible when there's other shoppers and merchandise on the shelves. According to my daughter's pediatrician, talk them out of it and try distracting them. Let them hold your shopping list or some coupons. If they don't want to listen to what you have to say then remove the child from the area and go outside or to the car. Tell them that behavior is unacceptable and why you brought them to the car. Discipline the child with a boring timeout and they will someday realize how the process works.