How to Date Out of My League

Everybody wants to date out of their league. It's natural. When we get the attention of someone who we feel is higher up on the social strata than we are, we feel good about ourselves. Also, why date down? That's just lame. I've dated a lot of people that I thought were out of my league, and actually, after dating them, I found out they really weren't. Nobody was. But this isn't like some kind of a pep talk. Confidence takes time to build. So until you realize that no one is really out of your league, here's how to date out of my league.

The first step to date out of my league is to be in shape. Let's face it, people out of your league have many choices, and are probably spoiled because of it. So you have to be in good shape. You want to show them off; they want to be able to show you off. So there's no way around it. Join an athletic school or afterschool team. Also, while you're there, you will have something in common with all the other people there. It will help you socially at school.

After you get in shape, the second step to date out of my league is to meet people while you're doing these activities. In school and out of school, you're forming relationships so that you can bring them in school. You have to get in the group of the people who are out of your league before you can date them. You have to hang out with their friends. Myspace them once you meet them and add them as your top friends to show you want to meet them. Or Facebook, whatever. Facebook is good because you can do all those stupid little quizzes.

After you get in with the crowd outside of school, use that to talk to them in school. The people out of your league won't be out of your league once you start sitting with them at lunch and flirting with them during class. You'll just be one of them. As a matter of fact, other people might start looking up to you.

Once you're in with the in crowd, dating with people previously out of your league will naturally happen as you gain more in common with them. The idea is to have fun, and don't look at this like a mission that you have to accomplish or else. It's not like schoolwork. To date people out of my league has been more than anything, an opportunity to make new friends that I wouldn't normally meet.