How to Deal with a Break Up

If you were in a relationship that ended and you are now heart broken, I know you are probably dealing with some pain and hurt inside. Sometimes you may think about your ex over and over again throughout the day and it may be hard to focus on anything else. Here are are a few ways that you can deal with the break up so that you can heal and help yourself feel better so that you can move on.

Let it out. If you really need to have a good cry, then let it out. Vent to someone who will listen and then get it out of your system. Sometimes it does help to cry and get your emotions out. Once you are done venting and letting yourself cry, then start to take some steps to help yourself get over the grieving process.

In the beginning it may be hard to have the motivation to do anything, but it will benefit you if you get up and do something. Try to keep yourself busy and occupied. Your life is not over because you are no longer with your ex. You are an individual and you should not stop living your life. You can get over this, it may take some time, but make sure that you do things to keep your mind distracted and not constantly obsessing over your ex.

Do not repeatedly call or harass your ex. This will most likely push them farther away. If they broke up with you, then there must be a reason. If there is any chance of the two of you reconciling, then let your ex have some time away from you to think about the relationship that you had and if it is worth saving. Also, by not calling or trying to contact your ex, you are giving them time away from you and during that time they might start to miss you and possibly want to work things out.

Move on with your life. Keep yourself involved in social functions. Go to parties and go out with your friends. Spend time around other people so that you are not alone. Have fun with your friends, as hard as it may seem. Try to keep yourself focused on moving on and feeling better.

Do not be afraid to date again. I am not saying that you should jump from relationship to relationship, but I am saying that it is okay to start meeting new people and casually date.

Improve yourself. Get a new haircut, change your wardrobe, start lifting weights or go to the gym. This will increase your self confidence, distract your mind and make you feel better about yourself. Sometimes when people go through a bad breakup, they may lose their self confidence. Do things that make you feel better about yourself.

Exercise. Exercise is not only good for your body but also for your mind. It helps to improve your mood and increase your energy. Go out for a night on the town with your friends and find a place to dance. Dancing is a good form of exercise.

If you are sure that the break up means that your relationship is definitely over and there are no plans of reconciling, it would be best to get rid of the things that remind you of your ex. If you think there may be a chance of reconciling, then take those things and hide them somewhere and do not look at them. If you keep looking at your ex's picture over and over again or sleep with the stuffed animal that they bought for you, it's going to hurt you even more and prolong your grieving. You have to let go. As hard as it may seem, letting go is the best thing for you.

Use positive affirmations with yourself. Say to yourself "I can and will get over this", "I will move on". Tell yourself that you can get over the break up and that you are ready to start being happy again. Time is a healer and it's very likely that you will eventually heal, get better and move on.

Some things happen for a reason. Maybe you and your ex were really not meant to be. As much as you'd like to think you were, there had to be a reason that you are not together anymore. There may be someone else out there for you, that might be more compatible with you. I had a friend who went through a bad break up and she swore she would never find anyone else. She was hurting and in a lot of pain and she thought that her ex was the only guy who she could ever see herself with. She said that there will never be another man like her ex. Two years later, she found a wonderful man who treated her much better than her ex and now she is happier than ever.