How to Deal with Loneliness

Lisa Mason
Loneliness may just be one of the most difficult emotions for a human to experience. But the truth of it is that almost everyone faces it at some time or another. It is important that you understand the reason for your loneliness. Some people experience loneliness after a loss such as a death, divorce or breakup. You may feel lonely when a good friend moves away, your teenager goes off to college or when you quit your job or retire. Sometimes we feel lonely because we do not allow the people in our lives to become close to us. You can feel lonely even if you are not physically alone.

When you understand the reason behind your loneliness, it will make it easier to deal with. It's also important to learn the difference between loneliness and solitude. Sometimes it is good to be alone. We can find comfort and peace in solitude. Others times it is painful to feel lonely. Excessive loneliness can also lead to depression.

Here are some tips to help you learn how to deal with loneliness. Remember also that it is important to understand your loneliness and why you are feeling that way. If you have just suffered a loss of someone you care about or if you feel your loneliness may be causing depression, don't be afraid to seek help. No one should have to suffer all alone when there are so many options for assistance available out there.

Find Yourself Again

Some people have a harder time being alone than others. You can learn to take this time alone and learn to rediscover yourself. Who are you really? How have you changed over the past years, months or even weeks? Have your likes and dislikes changed? Do you ever take time just to relax alone with your thoughts or do something that you enjoy? Do you take time to pamper yourself or read a book or curl up with popcorn and your favorite movies? Remember that there is a difference in loneliness and solitude.

Find a New Hobby

If you are suffering from loneliness, it can be made worse by boredom. Use this opportunity to find a new hobby or activity to keep you occupied so you don't have so much time to dwell on your happiness. If your hobby involves outdoor activities, you might even meet some new friends in the process or you can join an online community devoted to your new hobby.

Find Your Friends

If you are suffering from loneliness, this is a great time to hook up with old friends or make some new ones. It's always great to have someone to lean on when you are feeling down and it's wonderful to have someone you can call on the phone, send a letter or email to or even invite over or go to visit when your loneliness is at its worst. This is a good time to meet a new friend or invite that co-worker to coffee on lunch break. Allow yourself to take some risks when it comes to meeting new people and letting people into your life and you may feel less lonely.

Find Your Faith

If you are a religious person, you may take this alone time to rediscover your faith or spend more time practicing ad studying your religion. Prayer, meditation and reading are great activities for a lonely person to help them find perspective and purpose. Many religious people also find that this practice of faith eases their feelings of loneliness.

Here are some additional tips to help you deal with loneliness:

Join an online community.

Join a club, gym, etc.

Volunteer in your free time.

Challenge yourself to meet someone new.

Get outside more - go for a walk, to a park, a café, etc.Remember that loneliness is a normal human emotion that almost everyone feels at some time or another. In most cases, you will work through it on your own.

Published by Lisa Mason - Featured Contributor in Technology and Lifestyle

Lisa's a Community Guide at Y!CN and has been writing professionally since 1998 with a specialty in Internet content. A youth coach with a passion for a variety of sports, her work has been published on Yaho...   View profile

  • It's normal to feel lonely sometimes.
  • You can feel lonely even when there are people around you.
  • You don't have to suffer from loneliness.
"Somewhere there's someone who dreams of your smile, and finds in your presence that life is worth while. So when you are lonely, remember it's true: Somebody, somewhere is thinking of you."

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