How to Deal with Rude, Bossy People

We've all had encounters with people who are rude and bossy. I should point out that a rude person isn't always bossy or vice versa but the two behaviors do somewhat go hand in hand in many instances. Strangely enough it seems like some people actually live with a purpose to make everyone else miserable. Of course we know this isn't true but that's what they make it seem like. My mother used to always say that we should be tolerant and compassionate toward those who are rude to others because they must be unhappy with themselves and their own lives. My mother always felt that we should be respectful toward everyone even when those individuals did not treat us or other people with respect. I've always tried to take my mother's advice to heart so here are a few tips for dealing with rude, bossy people.

Be kind.

When you encounter someone who just seems to want to make your life miserable treat them with kindness. You might give that person something to think about since he/she will probably be expecting you to react with anger. By reacting in the opposite manner you might make the person reconsider his/her own behavior.

Try to look beyond the person's outward behavior.

There is a reason for everything including someone's rude behavior. We are all capable of being rude from time to time. We might not be feeling good or something on our minds that may cause us worry or anxiety. These things may cause us to be rude without even realizing it. But when a person is chronically rude to others there is a good chance that there is an underlying problem for the behavior. It could be health related, financial, unhappiness in a relationship, loneliness or any number of things. The point is not to take the rudeness personally. There may be underlying causes behind the person's attitude.

Limit your contact.

If the rude, bossy person is someone you see quite often but don't necessarily have to try to limit your contact if possible. If you've tried being nice and are fed up with rude comments or bossy behavior try to put some distance between yourself and the other person. This tactic isn't always possible and it may not work but it might be worth a try if you feel your anger is getting the best of you.

Tell the person how you feel.

If the rude, bossy individual is a family member, friend or co-worker the solution might be to let him/her know how you feel. Be honest and state your feelings. Let the person know that the rude comments or behavior offends you and/or hurts your feelings. As difficult as it may be to comprehend it is possible that the person does not realize how his/her words or actions affects you or others. Bringing this fact to the person's attention may force the person to take a closer look at him/herself.

It is not necessary to be rude. People are more willing to compromise when treated with respect. Respect is not limited. Everyone deserves respect. Being bossy or demanding only serves to push people away. It only angers others, sets a negative tone and destroys the fabric of relationships. No one should have to put up with being treated rudely. Live by the golden rule and encourage others to do so as well.