How to Deal with Rude Children

It would be great if every child was well behaved and delightful all the time. This is not the case. It seems when they chose to misbehave it often tends to be in public places and away from parents. So how are other adults, strangers, suppose to handle a child's rude behavior?

*Something is better than nothing

Ignoring bad behavior is a parenting tools that can work in individual and specific situations. It does not work for society to ignore bad behavior. This will simply encourage more of the same. Resign yourself to doing something for society at large and agree to do something.

*Try body language

Position yourself between the child and others so you can not be ignored. Sometimes this movement with a stern look is enough to stop bad behavior in its tracks. This can be extremely effective when a child is running, as long as you are willing to take the risk of being a road block.

*If something must be said make it concise, clear, and enforceable

If the parent are available make them aware that the behavior in unacceptable and causing an issue. Responsible parents will approach the children and try and remedy the situation.

Irresponsible parents will blame you and do nothing. If you are dealing with these kind of adults seek out an authority figure, like manager, security officer, or police officer.

Making idle threats is not an effective discipline method. This is no time to impose a consequence that can not be delivered.

Explain what the behavior is and that is must stop. Here is an example: "Stop running or I will report you to the store manager."

If the children are fairly young and just running about this is an option: "Please go tell your parents that a stranger is talking to you." Typically this sends them right back to those in charge to talk about stranger danger and it is a good reminder to parents that the children were out of sight and there could have been real issues.

Once a stand has been taken it is important not to make mountain out of a mole hill. So if there are rude children in the theater and you have already spoken with management, instead of continuing to fume and argue, ask to be reimbursed and come see the movie another time.

Civility is important is all these encounters. We do not want to contribute to rude and bad behavior. The goal is to be a positive force and help everyone understand the importance of being polite and kind people.