How to Determine If a Friend is True Friend and Worth Keeping

We all have different kinds of friends. There are the friends whom you have known for a long time and consider to be your "best" or "good" friends. There are also the friends that you just met or are more like acquaintances that you will say hi to or have a quick chat with but nothing more. Then there are the friends that you have known for a little while, that do not fit into either category. You are also not sure if they are a true friend. Here are some questions to ask yourself in determining if this is a friend you want to make into a good friend, back to more of a acquaintance level, or let go completely.

1. Is your relationship reciprocal with this person? Think about if you think they care about you just as much as you care about them. Think about the times when they needed your help, then think about the times that you needed their help, is it returned? Some people just want others to listen to help them with their problems, but do not care to hear about or help others with their problems.

2. Do they ever ask you how you are doing, without the intention of talking about themselves? There are some people that like to go on and on about their lives without even asking their "friend" how they are doing. Or if they do ask how the other is doing, they do not really listen or change the subject back to themselves.

3. Are you tired of dealing with them? This could be a sign that they are a toxic friend, which means that you should let go of them. If the only reason they call you or want to see you is so that you will have to hear about their issues with their work, spouse, family, etc then something is wrong. Obviously they could just be going through a rough time in their lives, but no one should be going to just one person with all of their problems. It can be draining to the other person, and this is inconsiderate. Friends should always be there for one another, but there is a limit. If you are a friend to them, but they do not really seem to be your friend, then you should reconsider having them in your life. It may be harsh, but it is not helping you in anyway to have a self-absorbed friend.