How to Discuss Not Circumcising Your Son with Your Circumcised Husband

With more and more evidence and proper studies showing that circumcision is not medically necessary less and less parents are circumcising their sons. Sometimes both parents do research on the subject and come to a mutual decision not to circumcise their son. In some cases one of the parents knows that they do not want to circumcise their son and wants to convince the other parent not too and to feel good about the decision. Most of the times, not always though there are plenty of times when a father wanted to convince a mother that not circumcising their son was medically the right thing to do, it is the mother who wants to explain to her husband that there is no medical reason to circumcise their son. It is likely that this is true because the fathers themselves may be circumcised and when that is the case you can't entirely blame them for thinking that an intact, uncircumcised, penis is medically better. There are some things that you can do to help the process of the discussion.

Printed Proof of Medical Facts

You'll be able to find tons of reliable resources on circumcision, feel free to contact the author of the article to request such information, that you can show to your husband. Find a few articles that you feel will intelligently explain to someone the medical facts about circumcision. If your husband won't take your word for it find the word of someone who you know that your husband can feel confident in trusting.

Explain Your Personal Feelings Towards the Matter

Not all of the reasons that you do not want to circumcise your son will be for the medical aspect. Therefore even if you show your husband material explaining the medical facts about circumcision be sure to explain to your husband why you feel completely confident about the matter.

Bring Up None Medical Matters

Sometimes medical facts aren't enough to truly show your husband why you do not want to circumcise your son. By mentioning things like sexual sensitivity, you can also find material to back you up, you will get closer to proving that you don't feel that it is you who should be making such a choice, it should be your son's choice.

Prepare to Be Sensitive To His Feelings

Don't forget, you are ultimately telling your husband that his parents were medically misinformed about circumcision. If any of the material explains, or you decide to bring it up, that an intact penis is more sensitive, sexually, you may more or less be telling your husband that he has been robbed of sexual experiences to their fullest potential indefinitely. Some men will walk away will the confidence that in not circumcising their son they are doing the best medical thing for him. However, sometimes after finding out all of the details and facts a man may feel a bit disappointed about losing his foreskin and others downright feel rapped and may get resentful. Regardless of how your husband feels about the matter the important thing is that you can remain firm in the decision that your son will not be circumcised but are also sensitive to your husbands feelings. Your husband will likely realize that the decision to be circumcised should be made by the owner of the penis.

The discussion that you and your husband may have may last a day or it may last years. So if know that you are having a boy you will want to address this topic immediately and if you ever plan on having children someday it is better to get an early start so you will have plenty of time to discuss the topic.