How to Enter into a Relationship

Another time they crossed paths. This time in the school cafeteria. He was sitting alone at the table, reading and having lunch. She stopped at that table with her lunch tray in her arms. Without looking up he slid over to give her room. Her heart fluttered. She was flustered and trying to think of something appropriate to say. Then, before she had a chance to say hello, she noticed him cleaning off and wiping the table. He left without saying a word.

The above example is not the best way to begin a relationship. She had been chasing him and he felt it. She was in his face wherever he went. Most guys detest that. They like to be the one who does the chasing. It's a man thing! Keep this in mind the next time you find someone you would like to meet.

Wear an Outstanding Outfit

Try not to show a guy that you are interested in beginning a relationship. Let them approach you first, if only to ask you a question. Be sure to wear an outstanding outfit to a class that you both take on the same day and time. Select a colorful top - something that is bright and would 'wow' him. Smile when you walk in front of him to get to your seat. If he stands up to allow you to pass and compliments your outfit, smile and thank him. Say something about the lack of seating or if he enjoys the subject matter of the class. Keep the conversation going.

Nod and Smile When You Pass in the Hall

Do not overreact when you go to class and notice him walking ahead of you. If he is talking to friends, nod and smile as you pass to show you noticed him and continue on your way. He will be impressed and so will his friends. Chances are he will make the next move and eventually will begin a relationship and get to know you better. The next time he might take the lead. If not, give him more time. Do not push or persist.

Find a Different Seat at Lunch

If you notice him in the lunch room, either sitting with friends or alone, walk past him to an empty table a row away from him. Open a schoolbook, read and eat. If he is interested he will get up and invite you to sit with him or ask to sit with you. Do not push it and do not approach him first. It will happen if you allow it. Be subtle. Let him make the first move towards starting a relationship.

Suggest a Movie Do Not Invite Him

Once you start talking to each other let him tell you about the things he likes to do. Look interested. Have him feel that you think that you enjoy them too. If he says he loves to see specific types of movies, act interested and anxious to hear more. Tell him the movies is one of your favorite weekend things to do. Hopefully he will invite you to go with him the next time. Guys like to be macho and enjoy being the first to suggest a date. Hint: Do not ask him to go. If he is interested, he eventually will get the hint and invite you to join him for a movie date.

Dress To Be Noticed

When I was in High School there was a guy that I had my eyes on. One day I wore a buttoned down black cardigan. It was the style of the times. We wore a cardigan sweater backwards - the buttons were in the back.

Most of the students were seated when I walked in holding my books. I had to walk in front of the room to get to my seat. I found my seat and sat down. When the class was over, I gathered my books and noticed this handsome guy walking toward me. He said I was the prettiest girl in the room. He loved my sweater, he said. Shortly afterward he asked me for a date and eventually we entered into a steady relationship. He took me to the prom.

It might seem to be old fashioned, with all this talk about equality, to wait for a guy to take the lead to start a relationship. However, if you have a guy in mind that you are dying to meet, try the old fashioned way, and let him take the lead. If you both have the same group of friends, talk about the new movie that is playing and you would love to see it. End it there and wait. You tossed out the bait! If he does not ask "would you like to see the movie with me? then give up the thought of entering into a relationship and find another guy to chase. He is not worth the trouble. There are other fish in the sea.