How to Fight Fair in a Relationship

Who wants to argue with their significant other? Not me, but it happens. You can talk calmly and work through the current issue or you can play dirty. If you choose to fight dirty don't expect to walk out of it smiling. When you fight dirty there is no winner, only two people feeling bad for things that they said to hurt the other.

Do not argue when you are feeling hot headed and upset. Calm down and approach your partner with the problem when you have had time to think it over. Give yourself time to reflect, is this argument necessary or can I handle it differently.

I do not like to be yelled at. When someone raises their voice to me I tend to get a little defensive. In fact, I may not even hear what they are saying. I just think, what is this person's problem? Approach the problem calmly, you are voicing an issue and you are not out for a shouting match. That resolves nothing.

Do not bring up past mistakes that either one of you did. Stay on topic. Let them know what is bothering you without dredging up the past. Please no name calling. You will never come up with any type of understanding calling someone that you care about an awful name. If anything let them know how much you appreciate them. Hold their hand, have some physical contact with them. Now when I say physical contact I do not mean doing any harm to this person.

Come to an agreement. Do not end the fight with no understanding of what just transpired. There doesn't have to be a winner and a loser just a solution. Thank the person for discussing the problem with them and do not go to bed angry.