How to Find Love Using The Secret

The underlying premise in finding the love you want using The Secret is that you must be ready for love in your life. Chiefly this means you must love yourself. Like attracts like. In other words, you can't attract love if you don't love yourself. Find things about yourself that you love and constantly reaffirm them. In The Secret, author Rhonda Byrne explains a shortcut to using the Law of Attraction to attract the things you want into your life. It's very simple really. In your self talk use "I am" statements. For example, "I am living in abundance; I am attracting prosperity." In the realm of love and relationships, your "I am" statements should affirm all of the wonderful things about you. For example, "I am deserving of love; I am loving: I am worthy of love."

The secret to The Secret, however, is not just saying it. In fact, it's not even just believing it. It's living it. You cannot just repeat your "I am" statements and expect the love of your life to knock on the door. It's more than that. You must repeat them as though they are fact; fact carved in stone. To the core of your being, with every fiber of your being you must not only believe them, but live them.

Think of it this way. When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Many people see their flaws and focus on them. This will attract the love you want in your life, it will attract more flaws. If, however, you look in the mirror and truly see your perfection, feel the love radiating from you out into the Universe, then you are on your way.

There is, though, a trick along the way. Many singles are afraid! Afraid they won't find love. That they'll spend their lives alone. What are they attracting? More fear! They are focused on the fear of being alone and that's what they are manifesting! You must live your life ready for love. Make your "I am" statement something like, "I am going to find the love of my life. I am going to find the perfect life partner." Believe it! Live it! Rhonda Byrne shares a story in The Secret about a woman who thought she was ready for love in her life. Until she realized that she was doing things that radiated to the Universe that she wasn't. She was parking her car in the middle of her two car garage. She was sleeping in the middle of the bed, and her clothes filled an entire closet. So what did she do? She readied herself. She cleaned out her garage and began parking on one side leaving the other side for her mate. She began sleeping on "her" side of the bed. She cleaned out her closet and left half of it for her partner's clothes. And, voilà!, love was attracted to her. She radiated her readiness to the Universe and the Universe responded.

The secret to The Secret? Focus on the love you want. Let go of the things you don't. Be aware of your thoughts and your actions. Be sure they are indeed focusing on what you want rather than what you don't. In the three steps of The Secret; ask, believe, receive. Ask for the relationship you want in your life. Believe that it's already yours. Receive it by feeling wonderful about it. Your wish is the Universe's command. All you have to do is ask.