How to Find Mr Right

The first step in resolving the issue of loving Mr. Wrong is actually realizing that he is in fact Mr. Wrong. Once you realize that he is wrong for you, then you can do something about moving on, but until you have your epiphany you'll spend a lot of your time wondering what the problem is with your relationship and why it isn't working. You'll read countless books on how to fix your Mr. Wrong, in the hopes of turning him into Mr. Right. You'll waste hours talking to your friends, looking for advice and solutions. You'll probably even try to change yourself in the hopes that it will result in a change in him.

However, after much heartache and deliberation, you'll eventually come to the conclusion that the problem is that you are in love with Mr. Wrong. It takes a lot of honesty with yourself to realize the truth, but eventually, after you've exhausted every possible avenue of trying to "fix" him, you'll admit to yourself that you have fallen in love with Mr. Wrong. He may be Mr. Wrong for you and Mr Right for somebody else, but while you're spending time with him, you're losing out on time that could be spent with Mr. Right.

I fell madly in love with Mr. Wrong, and was in love with him for years, but when I forced myself to be brutally honest about our relationship, I saw that it was fundamentally flawed. He didn't want to change, and I was tired of trying to change him. I was also tired of always being the person who compromised, who did things his way and rarely my way. We had a lot of good times together, but I always felt that there was something lacking in our relationship.

It took several attempts for me to finally end our relationship. We'd split up and be apart for a few weeks, then we'd get back together and I'd be so relieved to be with someone again that I'd overlook the inadequacies in our relationship, for a while. Every time the old doubts and questions came back to haunt me, and I couldn't allow myself to continue ignoring them.

Eventually, I ended it for good, and I've never looked back. I feel like I've gotten to know myself again. After years spent compromising and giving into someone else's whims, I'd forgotten what I liked and disliked. I spent a year living on my own, reflecting and also enjoying my single life. I got to know myself again. Everyone said how much happier I seemed, and I felt happy, happier than I'd felt in a very long time.

I met my Mr Right a few months ago, and he truly is a wonderful man. Our relationship is relaxed and easygoing. We have so much in common and can talk to each other for hours or just sit together in comfortable silence. He loves and accepts me for who I am. I don't have to question if he loves me, I know it through his words and his actions. He is a joy. I realize now how wrong Mr. Wrong was for me, especially when I compare him to Mr Right, so do yourself a favour ladies, and release the Mr Wrong from your life.