How to Find the Right Church

1. Research before attending. Many churches have websites with outlines of their various missions, services, activities, and beliefs. These are a great clue as to the church's focus and attitude.

2. Take note of the response to guests. Are they friendly and warm? Impersonal and cold? Do they seem genuinely happy to see you, or does it appear that their main mission is proselytizing? A welcoming church with a warm atmosphere in which you feel comfortable as a visitor is a good sign.

3. Watch for "love bombing." One of the first clues regarding a church's sincerity and mission is the presence of "love bombing." If members express their love of you, seem overly flattering, or express unnatural concern for the state of your soul, chances are that the main goal is a conversion. Many individuals are duped by this pervasive tactic generally known only to church insiders. Love bombing is often practiced by churches with a strong hold over congregants and by cult groups.

4. Pay attention to church doctrine. Often individuals join churches and later find that the doctrines/teachings are contrary to or unique from their own. For example, a Methodist may be surprised to find that a Catholic church will not consider her/him as an equal Christian without official church membership and sacramental adherence.

5. Observe the attitude toward other churches. Does the minister respond by mocking or insulting other churches, labeling them "unsaved," "unbiblical," "lost," etc? Or does the minister speak of the community in a positive way and work to build connections with other local churches?

6. Speak to a minister after service. Introduce yourself and ask questions after the message. The minister should be happy to meet you and respond warmly to your interest. Often churches will have a minister who greets individuals in the lobby before and after service.

7. Check the church's organizational affiliation. For example, many are probably unaware that official Southern Baptist Convention (SBC) church doctrine contains the following: "A wife is to submit herself graciously to the servant leadership of her husband," and, "Homosexuality is not a 'valid alternative lifestyle.' The Bible condemns it as sin." The SBC is the largest protestant organization in North America and claims over sixteen million US members.

8. Make sure to attend the correct service. Many churches have multiple styles of services to appeal to the wide diversity of congregants. Often a church will have a service of traditional hymns and liturgy immediately followed by a contemporary service, complete with a rock band and more modern message.

9. Stay for a meal. Most churches will follow service by either hosting or meeting for a lunch. This is a great way to get to know the congregants and see if the people are a good fit for your family and needs.

10. Ask for a "visitor pack." Many churches have prepared packages with phone numbers, basic beliefs, and a list of ministries that may prove of interest for visitors. Often times a form will be available for those wishing to receive a house visit.