How to Find Self Worth and Build Self-Esteem

We get bombarded everyday when we watch the television, listen to the radio or read a magazine or newspaper. Every commercial is the same. We need to lose weight, and make our teeth whiter. We need to be thinner. We need to erase our wrinkles, because God forbid being older in our world today.

The competition is fierce. With everyone portrayed in the ads as perfect. Which is a simple task when you have 13 people doing your hair, make up and clothes. Not to mention what air brushing can do. They Set impossible standards for us to follow. We are Often left to feel inadequate.

So how can we teach ourselves and our children self esteem and confidence?

I have struggled with self esteem for years. I still have bad days now and then, but for the most part I have incorporated a few habits into my life, that help me on a daily bases.

The first thing I acknowledged was there were people in my life, that were less than pleasant to communicate with. They were acquaintances, and family members. I realized that every time I talked to them, they would in a subtle way demean me or tell me I was doing something wrong. After stepping back and observing the whole picture, I knew that I would have to start distancing myself from them. For some reason I thought it was not polite to do this. Could I ignore a family member?.

Absolutely, and I cannot begin to tell you how nice my life is without those kinds of people in it and it gets better as time goes on. You will eventually be proud of yourself for taking this action. Not letting people treat you this way, while eliminating negativity from your life.

Everyone has strong points. Things that we do better than anyone else. It can be a hobby that you are good at. It can be the ability to make someone smile. Or a great personality. Learn to embrace the things you like about yourself, and remember them.

Take a realistic looks at your flaws. Do not over emphasize them. When you see things about yourself that you would like to change get organized. Instead of being upset and depressed about them, think of possible ways you can change them. Set goals for the changes. But take only one step at a time, to help insure success.

Always walk with your chin up. You will appear to be taller and more confident. After a time, it will come natural to you. It can also help improve your self image.

Try to have a positive attitude, and never compare yourself to someone else. Always remember nobody is perfect. Besides, sometimes the things that we view as flaws make us more approachable and lovable to other people.

I always see people trying to gain self esteem in the oddest places. In the plastic surgeons chair. In the tanning booth, and at the mall. It is nothing you can buy. It is something we all have to fix within.