How to Find Your Soulmate

The question always is: How do we find that perfect person? How do we find our soulmate? Or, do soulmates even exist? The following are some concept which which will aid you in finding that person, or recognizing when you already have them.

So let's jump right in...

There are a lot of great people out there. You just have to feel good enough about yourself to go for the people you think are great. Easier said than done, I know. But if we feel poorly about ourselves we only go for and approach people that we think would take us - people with lots of baggage, problems, insecurities, abusive, possessive, jealous, etc (all these things to a greater or lesser degree depending on how we feel about our self. If we see ourselves poorly, we will go for someone we also view poorly - this often happens (be honest). We will take the exact amount of abuse from someone else that we give to our self. If we take more from someone than we give our self, we walk away. But if we abuse ourselves a lot in the way of negative thinking, then we will be willing to accept an extreme amount of suffering from someone else. (one side note, once we love ourselves we will still likely allow negative people in our life because we want to show them love. But once we love our self, this negativity does not affect us because we realize the negative reaction we see are about that person, and have nothing to do with us.)

If you are filled with self love you will only accept people into your romantic life that resonate with that loving energy and will give it back to you. You will know that you deserve that, and your partner will know that they deserve that. This results in a very healthy relationship which is not based on neediness, but rather mutual respect, love, enjoying the experience and having fun.

By adopting this belief we set our partners free. We don't tie to them down to us, instead we allow them to be anything they want be, without condition. For this very reason likely they will stay with us because they realize the amazing gift they have been given.

So it begs the question, if only people full of self love seek out other people that are full self love, how do those that do not feel good about themselves currently find true love? Those that are feeling poorly about themselves will be inspired by the fact that someone shows them love. Those that have self love, must express love to the outside world. Even if it is not romantic. So often we shun those we don't want to date because we feel we may hurt them. By doing this we only show them more of a world that is lacking in love, and we do nothing to bring them out of their state of self-hate. We obviously will not love everyone romantically but if we can show friendly love to all people we move everyone in the right direction. Thus people in our lives will be more likely to seek out partners that will uplift them instead of drag them down.

All of us must work on feeling complete on our own. No one else can complete us. If we seek out someone else to fill a void in our life we only bring suffering upon us. With that said though, when we find our soulmate there is a synergistic merging of souls where we become more than we could have been on our own. Soulmates are simply people we have known from past lives, that is why we feel so comfortable with them. They are a familiar soul. But we also create soulmates in this life time. You can forge a bond with someone and choose for them to be a part of your life. The "one" can be anyone you want it be, as long as you choose to love that person unconditionally.

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