How to Find Time for Romance in Your Marriage

One thing about marriage is that sometimes life gets in the way and we forget all about romance and put it on the back burner. We use every excuse in the book. Too tired, not enough money, have to deal with the kids, yadda, yadda, yadda. But, in fact, romance doesn't have to cost a lot of money, or any money for that matter. Romance doesn't have to require a lot of energy and sometimes romance can even include the kids! Eh? Read on!

Society tends to equate romance with wining and dining and expensive jewelry. Sometimes those things are nice, but it doesn't always have to include those things. With the economy the way it is most of us don't have the luxury to splurge on such extravagance anyways.

Mr. Webster says that romance is "to entertain romantic thoughts or ideas." He didn't mention anything about having to spend tons of money! Romance can be as simple as a glance, a smile or even a simple touch. Showing you are thinking about someone and loving them is romantic!

When you work full time and have a house full of kids it may seem like you and your spouse will never have alone time again, but don't worry! There is light at the end of that long and busy tunnel!

A simple compliment will go a long way in making someone feel loved and special. Men, this works especially well on your wives! I mean really, we don't spend hours in the bathroom getting ready for our own benefit you know. We like to know that someone has noticed our effort to look our best. We do it for you! I tell my husband that taking out the trash and taking care of the kids is the most romantic thing he can do for me. NO joke! I really feel the love when he takes off some of the pressures and duties of everyday life.

Do things with your spouse that they love even when you don't care for it at all. If your husband is into Nascar and you really could care less, going to a race with them or even watching it on tv shows them how much you care about them. The same works when he goes shopping with you when he would rather be having a root canal.

Little phone calls and text messages through out the day goes a long way! Just getting a little "loving you" text message from my hubby puts a smile on my face and lets me know he is thinking about me. Even a quick email or note on the bathroom mirror does the same thing. Little things add up.

When you can, get a baby sitter and go out on a real date! You know, the thing you do when you get all dressed up and go out to a nice restaurant and maybe a movie! I know, foreign concept, right? Seems once we get married gone are the days of date night. Married life is not the time to quit dating, my friend. If anything, it is the perfect time. The honeymoon stage only last so long then real love and commitment set in. Check out my article "Love Is A Choice, Not A Feeling."

I mentioned romance can even include the kids, and it can! Have you ever had a game night with the family and you see your husband interacting with the kids and playing with them. It makes you love him even more doesn't it? Seeing how much your husband loves your kids is plenty romantic for me! Even going on a walk as family and just holding hands can be bliss.

Spend time each day talking to each other but what is going on in your life and how your day has been. Just those few minute conversations giving insight in each others lives can really bring two people closer.

Start each day and end each day with a kiss! Enough said.

As you can see romance is in everyday life. It only takes a minute to show the one you love just how much you love them.

Source: Webster.com