How to Get a Girl to like You

Have you ever wondered, what am I doing wrong? Why will she not talk to me? Why can I absolutely not interest her one tiny little bit? Well, that's because your methods of flirting are underdeveloped, under-practiced, or just very poor. This article will discuss methods of flirting for guys, when trying to attract a female.

So, the question is pretty simple: what do I have to do in order to interest that girl? It really depends on who you are, who the girl is, and what she's looking for. The best advice that you are going to find anywhere, whether it be in a textbook, from a friend (a good one, at least), or most therapists, is be yourself. For some of us, this can be a very difficult and challenging task, yet all of us must realize that it is a requirement in life. If we are not ourselves when we are trying to pick up a girl, it will end up in a horrible relationship, and often you will be caught in a pickle (pardon the baseball term, but you will want to be yourself, but fear that if you deviate from you have been for so long, she will no longer like you).

Therefore, when you first approach a girl, or even if it is someone that you know and have known for quite some time, you really need to act yourself. For some of us, that is a scary thought, but you will never find true love or true happiness in a girl if you attract a girl with characteristics that are not native to your own. So, when you first talk to that special girl, or even when you talk to someone you've known for quite some time, be yourself. Let her truly get an idea of who you are. Yet, the important facets of dating are being considerate, selfless, and empathic. You want her to feel like you really care about her; if you're a good guy, well...you should care about the girl you like. This shouldn't be a difficult task. Talk to her about what she likes, ask her how her day went; if she is ever bothered about something, you want to comfort her, not simply try to fix her problems. That is one thing that guys do not understand: girls are not looking for you to necessarily fix their problems - at least not immediately. They really want you to listen to them, hear what is wrong, and then try to make them feel better about it. From there, you can offer your advice, or give it to her if she asks for it.

Lastly, as this is a quick guide to what one needs to do in order to "flirt" with a girl...it really will develop over time. The key aspect to flirting is that one must feel comfortable with the opposite sex. In this case, the guy must feel comfortable talking with the girl. You must always make and keep direct eye contact; yet, nothing too sketchy. Just hold eye contact, as this exhibits confidence, and shows her that you're into her. If you learn about her, you know what she likes, then you can talk about things that she likes as well as things that you like. Never brag, at least not gratuitously, yet it's nice for her to know good things about you. For instance, if you went to a good school, you don't come right out and tell her, but if it's asked, you can confidently tell her where you've gone. If you have a high paying job, you can inform her of that as well only if asked (yet, never throw out numbers, prices, salaries, etc., as this exudes absolute insecurity). If you are secure, you don't need to try to "buy" women. In fact, if you get a woman due to money, you will not be happy.

All in all, be yourself, be confident. Your attitude, characteristics, and personality will often win a girl over before your physical attributes (although those never hurt). Good luck.