How to Get a Girl's Phone Number

So you're wondering how to get a girl's phone number. You have seen Swingers, but you aren't sure you can pull off anything Vince Vaughn does in that movie... Don't sweat it-this article will explain how to easily get a girl's phone number without risking rejection or embarrassment.

Before asking for a phone number, you should have good rapport with the woman. If she is laughing at your jokes, asking you a lot of questions about yourself (when someone asks questions it can be a sign of interest), and smiling then you have good rapport. If she has her arms crossed, is scowling at you, and only gives one word yes or no answers to your questions she may not be interested-also, if she mentions a "boyfriend" or "husband" in the picture, she is doing this for a reason. She is politely reminding you she is not available.

Obviously, don't attempt to get such a woman's phone number. But if you do feel there is good rapport, go for it! You will regret "passing up" any opportunity to get someone's contact info, especially if you think they have a lot in common with you and may make a great girlfriend someday.

I rarely pass up such opportunities, but one time I got "cold feet" and did not ask for a beautiful girl's number at the airport in London. We were really hitting it off, too. I never again saw the girl, and to this day I regret not going in for a phone number-or at least email address! (So learn from my mistake.)

Getting a girl's phone number is very easy when you have a pre-established technique you can use each time-this way, you won't seem "awkward" or timid as you ramble on, eventually asking for the number. No. Instead, you can be upfront and totally confident about it.

"So let's do the whole phone number thing," I usually say flippantly as I pull out my cell phone. I hand it to her and let her type in the number. Some guys will call the girl's number to make sure it's valid. I never do this because it seems like a creepy thing to do; and besides, if you can't trust her to give you a real number, she isn't someone you would ever want to date anyway.

If she hesitates, I will make light of it, saying something like, "I normally don't call after 3AM on weeknights." At this point, the girl will laugh and give her number, and then ask for mine.

I don't really bother with email addresses anymore, but sometimes it's good to get hers. You can send a smooth and intelligent initial email a couple days after meeting someone at a party. Initial voicemails, on the other hand, tend to be notoriously awkward ("I don't know if you remember me? From the party? But I'm Dave-you gave me your number-we should go out sometime.")

If you are someone who cannot leave a concise, funny, and highly confident voicemail, you may want to go for an email address instead.

Good luck, and remember, it's just a number. If she is into you and laughing at everything you say, chances are she is ready to give her number. You have nothing to lose, except for maybe a few moments of your time.