How to Give Your Man Enough Space

In the beginning of a relationship many are overtaken by love, lust, and some overwhelming sense of belonging to their new partner. You want to live, eat breathe, and sleep in, on, or around your love. Your heart skips a beat and you may feel like you can't breathe when you think of them. This is all part of the initial stages of a true romance. You feel the highest of highs when your lips touch theirs. It may sound idealistic but love can wash over you like a rush of adrenaline. I can testify to this because I myself am currently captivated by someone who brought this feeling back after many years. No matter if you've dated someone for years, are in a new relationship, or are involved in a one way crush you may know this feeling. This is called the honeymoon phase of a relationship because initially most people accept and trust these feelings and let them play out. Some eventually fade after time just like after a honeymoon the newness somehow wears off due to either chance or choice. When these feelings that are so powerful your initial instinct is to follow the pleasure until you're sure that you've consumed it in its entirety. This may involve wanting to spend every waking moment with your man, doing anything you can for him, and wanting him to feel the same way. This is all so very romantic but reality kindly steps in before we lose our minds and dictates that we need to slow down and control our emotions so some degree.

He's got his own agenda

During the honeymoon phase it's only natural to want to spend more time with your partner as time goes along and you become closer. Let me say that there is a very fine line between what may feel like a natural progression of the relationship to you and his version. Let's remember that we have another person involved in this equation and just as you, they have their own set of feelings. Your man will have his own way of life, feelings, habits, tendencies, and preferences and understanding this will help you immensely. Men are more cautious for the most part to allow feelings to rush over them in an uncontrolled way. In our society men are raised to believe that emotions are a sign of weakness. How can we enforce this mentality then expect them to alter their beliefs in just this one instance? The key to overcoming this emotional numbness is giving him space. (Trust me on this.)

The concept of space: how important it is to the survival of love

As females we are very in tune with our emotions and know that when we date someone who treats us right and makes us feel incredible that we want to keep that feeling going in a strong and steady fashion. It's called ecstasy and it can be compared to the high feeling of a drug. When you think of it in this respect please understand the direct correlation. Everything should be done in moderation. Allowing any person, place, or thing to control your life and space by its sheer presence is a surefire way to end up brokenhearted. The feelings that are rushing into your mind, body, and soul are just that-your feelings.

Boundary Setting

The reality is as much as you want to spend time with him he may indeed want to spend just as much time with you. All parties involved need to keep in mind is that it's extremely healthy to maintain your other friendships, obligations, and attend to business matters. Even if you'd both like to spend all day everyday together it's important to keep perspective. This is especially important when you get serious in a relationship. Both parties need to set healthy boundaries in a personal way, and for the relationship between the two of you. Personal space in a relationship is like giving a flower sunshine-you have the let the other person continue to grow while having the freedom of choice. You have to allow your man to continue to pursue his interest and activities that he had prior or you will find that he may start to resent you. Once a man feels his freedom is stifled or he has to give up the things he loves in life you can be assured that the end is near. It's essential that you both take personal time or you will extinguish the love between you.