How to Give a Sensual Massage Like a Pro

A simple way to turn any day into a memorable and romantic occasion is with a sensual massage. I love giving massages probably even more than I enjoy getting them. Over the years I have given many massages, and I have learned that five basic rules can turn any massage into a sensual and unforgettable experience.

Many people, especially women, are uncomfortable giving massages to their partners because they believe they aren't any good at it. The truth is, anyone can give a massage like a pro if they just allow themselves to enjoy it as much as their partner.

Tip 1: Set the Scene

Creating the perfect atmosphere for your massage is very important and only takes a few minutes. Choose a comfortable and private location - a bed generally works very well - and then consider your surroundings. A few candles scattered around the room provide the perfect lighting. Dress up the bed a little if you wish with some pillows or rose petals. Some soft, relaxing background music is often a nice touch as well. Make certain you will have sufficient uninterrupted time for the massage - 30 minutes to an hour is generally long enough. You want to make certain you have plenty of time to enjoy each other.

Tip 2: Oils and Aromatherapy

Oil is a must for any massage, as the friction caused by dry skin rubbing on dry skin can be very unpleasant. Start with a nonirritating base, such as grape seed oil, and then add a few drops of a relaxing essential oil such as lavender or sandalwood. Do keep in mind, however, that some people may be allergic or sensitive to certain oils. You might want to test a few different oils on your partner before the massage begins. To ease clean up and to protect your furniture, it is a good idea to lay down an extra sheet or blanket beneath your partner. An oil diffuser or some burning incense can help set the mood and trigger relaxation as well.

Tip 3: Take Your Time

Rushing through a massage is the biggest mistake people make. There is nothing less romantic, less sensual, or less relaxing than having hands kneading you so quickly and so forcefully that your muscles tighten up more and your body aches when the massage is over. In order for a massage to work, you must slow down and concentrate on each individual area of the body until all the tension in that location has been dissolved. Start at one end of the body, preferably the head and neck, and very slowly work each area before moving onto the next. If you have a problem with your hands tiring too quickly, it is probably because you are not using your entire body. Do not be afraid to get your entire body into the massage.

Tip 4: Don't Neglect the Rest of the Body

The neck and back are not the only areas that need attention. Every body part, including the head, can benefit from your hands. Rub your fingers over your partner's scalp, massage and rub every finger and every toe until your partner is fully relaxed. No area of the body is off limits unless your partner tells you that it is.

Tip 5: Enjoy Yourself

A massage can be an enjoyable bonding experience for both of you, regardless of who is doing the massaging. Your partner will sense whether you are having a good time or not, just as you will be able to tell what feels good to him based on the way his body reacts when you touch him. Close your eyes if it helps, and be attentive to what his body is telling you. If he pulls away or tenses up, alter the level of pressure you are using or change techniques.

Never expect a massage in return. Your partner may be so relaxed after getting one from you that he is unable to reciprocate immediately after you finish. If he enjoys the experience, however, he will be much more likely to offer to return the favor in the future.