How to Make a Good Friendship

One must first think as what kind of person he is. There are some who do not wish to be in groups and prefer themselves alone. This article is not meant for them. There are many people who prefers to be in the group of their best friends. This article is focused at them as how to maintain these relationship for a life time.

From where we meet friends ? It could be from your school days. In college you met some one very special and became your friend. In office you meet some one. Some one is just staying next to your house. There is no such rule or place by which you get friends. Once you are friendly with some one, there are certain things which you must take care and keep this relation for life long.

Select a right person. Do not hurry in friendship. Take your own time to understand him. Give him also his own time to understand you. When you meet a new person and start liking him, you wish to be friendly with him. Being friendly with him in the beginning, not necessarily you offer him every thing. study him properly. What he likes & dislikes. What are his habits. What are his hobbies. What is his nature. Check up all these things if they match with your liking and habits. This would create less confrontation in the future. If many things do not match in the person you are trying to be friendly with, you both may find it difficult to maintain the friendship. That is the reason why it required little more time to consider some one as your friend.

Once you get that feeling from within as this is the right person, start talking to him with confidence. Keep one thing in the mind, this is not the last day of your friendship, so go slow. Introduce yourself to him in a most realistic way. Do not create a false picture of yours in his mind. Be as realistic as possible. There is no need of impressing him. Allow him to accept the way you are. If you create a false picture of yours to him, he may find it difficult to cope up with you. Tell him about your true hobbies. Invite him to your house for a dinner. Introduce him to your parents as he is your new friend. Allow him to talk to your parents. Let him introduce himself to your parents. Your parents would then be in a better position to judge him. Don't forget to take feed back from your parents as how they found him. If he invites you to his house, please give due respect to his parents and introduce your self in true manner. Do not try to out class him or let him down in front of his parents. Be normal and realistic. Speak in low tone with his parents. Use your good communication skills.

Once you both are in good friendly position with each other and start meeting daily, still keep safe distance. Every one requires his or her own space. If your friend is disturbed by something, talk to him and try to find it out if he prefers to share with you or not. Do not force him saying that you are his best friend and you must know what he is going through. The things in your mind are clear but he is not sure of if he should reveal his problem to you or not. Give him some time. Don't put him in an awkward position and press him hard to tell you the truth. Perhaps you may react the same way and would not prefer to tell your problem to your friend. Instead, assure him if you can help him to solve his problem. Let him feel the confidence to tell you what he is going through. Don't just preach him over the incidence. Try and listen what he says. Be concerned and involved with him when he tells you. Look in to his eyes when he is talking with you about his problems. If he tells you about his problem, assure him that you won't disclose it to any one. No one likes that. Do not disclose his problem with any of your friends. This is not a gossip issue. It would create a bad impression about your self and you are the one who would be responsible for this.

Being in a good friendship with some one, you necessarily need not let your self down all the time. Be a self respected person. If you do not respect your self you would not be able to respect others. As you have your own priorities and limits, so your friend too has his own. Do not expect extra ordinary things from him. He is a normal person as you are. He has his own priorities as you have yours. We expect lot of things from others and end up making our life miserable. Control your high expectations. If your friend has a different program with some one else, let him go. Just don't feel jealous. There could be so many things in him which you may not have with you. May be he is smarter than you or fairer than you. May be he is more intelligent than you and has better understanding than you. Do not waste your time comparing these things and give food to your jealousy. Accept the fact that he is smart and intelligent. Appreciate his qualities. Appreciation plays very important role in friendship provided it is done on a true note and at a right time.

Apart from appreciation, in friendship, some time you need to be concerned about his failures also. If your friend did not perform good in exams, help him to understand the subject well if you are better in that subject. Take help from others if the need be. If he is, by any chance, addicted to drug or some bad habits, do not spare him. It's a difficult time his life. Let him understand the bad effects of his bad habits. Scold him at times or take him to his parents and let them know where their ward is up to. He may not like this in the beginning, but sooner or later he would realize that you did a right thing to save him. Mere sympathy does not work all the time. A hard action is required and do not hesitate to give this dose. It will take some time for your friend to come back to normal. Give him that time. Be concerned for him all the time. He needs you most now and spare that extra time for him till he recovers well. Consider your self in his condition and think how you would have felt at that time and would have liked to be treated by others during that worst period.

A good friendship makes your life worth living. In course of life, you loose some and gain some. The process is on. Some friends pass away due to ill health. Some friends leaves you due to your misbehavior. Some friends go away with misunderstanding. Lot of things happen in ones life. Friends come and go. Some time you fail to understand a particular person whom you were so friendly and dear at one time. But that's life. You just can't gain control over every thing. Be a good person till last. Rest you live it to your friends alone.